tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post1663892464895308911..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: visitmenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-65540220784516416172008-08-26T05:22:00.000-07:002008-08-26T05:22:00.000-07:00i think when they don't drive it will be easier be...i think when they don't drive it will be easier because you will be in control of the visits. Just that fact will go a long way to making the visits better.I'm scrawlwritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07787782147738169834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-78445079149281215612008-08-25T07:19:00.000-07:002008-08-25T07:19:00.000-07:00qt, it sort of sneaks up on you, little by little....qt, it sort of sneaks up on you, little by little.<BR/><BR/>karen, nice to hear from you! Yes, i see old age advancing on me in the rear view mirror too.<BR/><BR/>tt, i don't know how you do what you do everyday. You're a hero.<BR/><BR/>rosie, i'm glad to hear that. I hope so.<BR/><BR/>flutter, you know i won't argue with you on that one.<BR/><BR/>franki, no, not fun. I think even less so for them though.<BR/><BR/>nancy, whiskey works for me.<BR/><BR/>dick, i hope to die as my neighbor did, out on his daily walk, he just keeled over and died, with no preceding sickness.<BR/><BR/>deb, you have no answers because there really are no answers.<BR/><BR/>brad, good idea. Will there be wine?<BR/><BR/>mona, i'm glad you like it. <BR/><BR/>caro, Mmmmm. Gerard. Yep, that would cheer me up.<BR/><BR/>sari, i think it's because i am an observer of the world. I just have to recount back my mental inages.<BR/><BR/>mother hen, i wonder sometimes how i will feel. Should be interesting.<BR/><BR/>patches, that's quite a story you told about your trip to ughville.<BR/><BR/>hearts, they seem to tolerate it well, but it still scares the hell out of me.<BR/><BR/>lu, it's hard to act like a loving daughter. I try to at least act interested. Hopefully that's good enough.<BR/><BR/>irrelephant, thanks for the hug. You seem like a huggable person. <BR/><BR/>maggie, love you too! (sucking up is not beneath me.)menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-38260404403980051952008-08-23T13:11:00.000-07:002008-08-23T13:11:00.000-07:00Godzooks I love you.(that's not just because you p...Godzooks I love you.<BR/><BR/>(that's not just because you praised me in the comments of the last post, but it might have influenced me a little).<BR/><BR/>"his pants belted just under his nipples"<BR/><BR/>"i know it will be hard when it's not easy"<BR/><BR/>---you just make me smile and on a side note: thank God for PBS shows eh?Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255266354171825474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-35753812289293050652008-08-22T19:06:00.000-07:002008-08-22T19:06:00.000-07:00My dad is fading away. My mother seems to be impl...My dad is fading away. My mother seems to be imploding in on herself.<BR/><BR/>Me -- I just want to dissolve into little particles of light that float up into the air. Kind of like the complete opposite of fireworks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-59148777506273819822008-08-22T17:01:00.000-07:002008-08-22T17:01:00.000-07:00I don't even know what to say, meno. I know it's ...I don't even know what to say, meno. I know it's tough, it's always tough. I think we're supposed to draw from this that we need to appreciate every second with our folks and our friends, but it's too easy to overlook, isn't it? We take things for granted, and the last curtain call comes for us all, sooner or later.<BR/><BR/>Brava for having the strength to post such a deeply personal thing. .big hug.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-50122317953824125242008-08-22T14:53:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:53:00.000-07:00It must me that much more difficult when your rel...It must me that much more difficult when your relationship with them is strained.luhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486545199810361580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-27232606386273412122008-08-21T23:37:00.000-07:002008-08-21T23:37:00.000-07:00I feel bad for my children in advance and wonder i...I feel bad for my children in advance and wonder if I'll recognize that I have reached an age that is hard for them to witness.<BR/><BR/>Your parents drink like fish and then drive? Yikes. I'm so sorry.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-8260429685880602022008-08-21T20:44:00.000-07:002008-08-21T20:44:00.000-07:00Reporting after a 24 hour layover from the Land of...Reporting after a 24 hour layover from the Land of Ugh....<BR/><BR/>I've read enough stories about your mom to know the good left, is tolerable at best. Enjoy what crumbs of tolerableness remain, and may you never find yourself amidst the decay.jadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326141253899975708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-40803761759113523222008-08-21T14:58:00.000-07:002008-08-21T14:58:00.000-07:00Ahhhh my parents are getting old, and whenever I t...Ahhhh my parents are getting old, and whenever I think of them, and losing them someday in the future, I just cry and cry and cry.The Real Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226727195920798035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-59161215779390552122008-08-21T09:19:00.000-07:002008-08-21T09:19:00.000-07:00it seems like you write easily of something that i...it seems like you write easily of something that is not easy. i love the way you write, even if it's not a lovely subject.<BR/><BR/>i don't like to think of the day long ahead when I will see this.sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-66264233175759728092008-08-21T09:13:00.000-07:002008-08-21T09:13:00.000-07:00Been there and you sooo nailed it. You've got lots...Been there and you sooo nailed it. You've got lots on your plate these days it seems. Wish I could send over Gerard Butler with a care package delivery. Forget the care package. He's plenty 'nuff. Have a great day Meno.carohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12199592207890486295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-50545075585367057852008-08-21T04:50:00.000-07:002008-08-21T04:50:00.000-07:00You should write like this more often, as it is ex...You should write like this more often, as it is exactly how my thought processes work, and it's easily digestible...like sweet fruity yogurt.Mona Buonanottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809435868294190789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-41083762247817777012008-08-20T20:24:00.000-07:002008-08-20T20:24:00.000-07:00It's tough watching parents get older. I see what ...It's tough watching parents get older. I see what my slightly older friends go through with thiers. Maybe it's time to start up a support group. Eek.Bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08680462833188999331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-35184409173957092322008-08-20T18:36:00.000-07:002008-08-20T18:36:00.000-07:00Families are tough.Getting old is tough.If I had a...Families are tough.<BR/><BR/>Getting old is tough.<BR/><BR/>If I had any answers I'd write a freaking book. Sorry Meno, I got nothing. Take care of yourself though.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-38804585559405237222008-08-20T17:49:00.000-07:002008-08-20T17:49:00.000-07:00I guess we are now the oldest generation since all...I guess we are now the oldest generation since all four of our parents are gone. I hope we will be some of those lucky ones who live independently right up to the end, then die in their sleep, but we don't get to pick our way out. I'd say enjoy your parents as best you can while you still can. The time will come when you can't.Dickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12381970360203140143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-79363351238293654102008-08-20T15:22:00.000-07:002008-08-20T15:22:00.000-07:00No no, not milk. Whiskey.I dread the day. My mom...No no, not milk. Whiskey.<BR/><BR/>I dread the day. My mom is terrified that she'll get Alzheimer's (runs in the family, gulp) and tells me just to put her in a home, no matter what she screams when the time comes. <BR/><BR/>My folks live about 1000 miles away, and it is difficult every time I see them, because I notice every new wrinkle and spot and bizarre new old-person behavior. I worry about what my responsibilities will be, and I feel guilty that I moved so far away and have missed so many years with them.<BR/><BR/>I hate time.Nancy Dancehallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169976337329559458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-91066087373927890842008-08-20T15:15:00.000-07:002008-08-20T15:15:00.000-07:00getting old is not fun...for anyone is it?getting old is not fun...for anyone is it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-45416415655751054162008-08-20T14:36:00.000-07:002008-08-20T14:36:00.000-07:00isn't that kid of yours great?isn't that kid of yours great?flutterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828689769747130419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-20080565469278954392008-08-20T13:58:00.000-07:002008-08-20T13:58:00.000-07:00those last years are hard. my parents are gone now...those last years are hard. my parents are gone now..and that was hard too.<BR/>But then something wonderful happens. All the memories of them merge together and you remember the whole person, in their prime...and not what they became at the endRosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12211663940952195703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-27756707193933843952008-08-20T13:40:00.000-07:002008-08-20T13:40:00.000-07:00I'm so with you here. Unfortunately....It just doe...I'm so with you here. Unfortunately....<BR/>It just doesn't get any easier...<BR/>unfortunately....tthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157492410943794052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-16020746763589628332008-08-20T13:06:00.000-07:002008-08-20T13:06:00.000-07:00Arg! I'm imagining something like that being writt...Arg! I'm imagining something like that being written about us ('us' being the old man and me) one day... one day waaaay too soon!Karen Jacobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316270072956883280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-20547886140030719822008-08-20T12:33:00.000-07:002008-08-20T12:33:00.000-07:00Wow. I was able to visualize it all perfectly.Mine...Wow. I was able to visualize it all perfectly.<BR/><BR/>Mine aren't even close to this yet, but I dread the day when they are no longer able to drive themselves places.<BR/><BR/>Em's a good egg.QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-87269319527064311352008-08-20T11:05:00.000-07:002008-08-20T11:05:00.000-07:00cheesy, i know it's a part of life, but i still do...cheesy, i know it's a part of life, but i still don't like it. :(<BR/><BR/>maddy, i must say that i have it way better than many, as my parents are moving themselves into a retirement/assisted living place. Better than me having to drag them kicking and screaming. I'm sorry you have it rough.<BR/><BR/>pat, i should do some research about that. Thanks for the tip.<BR/><BR/>anne, i think you will. <BR/><BR/>mrs 4444, thank you. :)<BR/><BR/>bob, hopefully you have a ways to go. Enjoy them while you can.<BR/><BR/>vanessa, thank you for the sympathy.<BR/><BR/>mrs. chili, i'm sorry. It sucks.<BR/><BR/>holly, that's the creepiest part, the knowledge that i'm next. Got a few good years left in me though!<BR/><BR/>furious, that's an unpleasant disease. And no real cure. Sad.<BR/><BR/>mamalujo, sometimes it's hard for me to tell the difference between fearless and whiny.<BR/><BR/>marsha, yes, we are flying off early saturday am. Going through the motions pretty much sums it up.<BR/><BR/>gordo, lots af medicines are poison with a different name.<BR/><BR/>clowncar, it's no fun is it? And how much worse to BE the aging one who is losing abilities. I am afraid.<BR/><BR/>fiwa, courage girl!menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-12609552721978033842008-08-20T10:40:00.000-07:002008-08-20T10:40:00.000-07:00Ugh. I know how you are feeling.Ugh. I know how you are feeling.fiwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04816465372283594972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-30901764441585597692008-08-20T10:12:00.000-07:002008-08-20T10:12:00.000-07:00Wow. Reading that was like watching a hammer hit ...Wow. Reading that was like watching a hammer hit a nail right on the head. You caught that perfectly.<BR/><BR/>Sounds like many of your readers are going through a similar situation. I know I am.Clowncarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02219213001049223673noreply@blogger.com