tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post1722905201430294569..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Brain breezemenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-81681001258323793922007-03-30T13:22:00.000-07:002007-03-30T13:22:00.000-07:00u-u, you're welcome. I'm sorry.mamap, i meditate ...u-u, you're welcome. I'm sorry.<BR/><BR/>mamap, i meditate sometimes, but praying to me means addressing someone/thing. Meditating is a quiet time to listen to myself, to see if i gave anything to say to me.<BR/><BR/>jeremiah, or how much of what we perceive has anything to do with us.<BR/><BR/>mrs.chili, i know you have been away and busy. I am feeling much better, it was a temporary thing, induced partly by an unexpected hormonal event (damned irregular period) and by the Mister's traveling. A true moment of connection is a beautiful thing.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-26979916295040239562007-03-30T05:11:00.000-07:002007-03-30T05:11:00.000-07:00Meno, Baby, I JUST got caught up on your blog (bei...Meno, Baby, I JUST got caught up on your blog (being away - and away from easy internet access - messed with my blog-reading routine). <BR/><BR/>I'm very sorry that things have been hard for you over the past week. I wish I could offer you some insight about trust, but I'm fairly sure that it's something that every individual has to work out for themselves. <BR/><BR/>Isn't it wonderful when you can make the kind of connection - the breeze you spoke about - with someone else? When you can say "yes, I understand," and you REALLY do? I strive for that (and am especially giddy when a piece of my writing strkes just the right note in someone). Really, being human is all about making those connections, and the sad truth is that they happen so rarely that they need to be recognized and celebrated when they happen.<BR/><BR/>My love to you. I'm happy to be back and reading again...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-25590540685787811342007-03-30T00:21:00.000-07:002007-03-30T00:21:00.000-07:00We're all actually very much alike in a spiritual ...We're all actually very much alike in a spiritual sense. We share just a few basic emotions--the difference between us is only how intensely we each decide to, or are inclined to, follow our basic instincts. Perceptive people, such as yourself, understand this perfectly.Elliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09276602228894928374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-66797004494617328812007-03-29T23:52:00.000-07:002007-03-29T23:52:00.000-07:00I think you are very spiritual. Have you ever pray...I think you are very spiritual. Have you ever prayed for a week just to see the results? I mean this not in any way shape or form as a ploy to convert you to anything (not that you'd go for it anyway.) Just sort of a "Hmmm.. wonder what would happen if I took 5 minutes a day in silence, asking, thanking, reflecting..." I'd love to hear your wise response to this spiritual thing so many people do every day. <BR/>Just a thought - a great blog entry for you if nothing else!Andrea Frazerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293267612840259503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28391941909259276122007-03-29T21:07:00.000-07:002007-03-29T21:07:00.000-07:00I had Eileen's childhood. Thanks for listening to...I had Eileen's childhood. Thanks for listening to her.urban-urchinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18001320142893492171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21374899369177527642007-03-29T20:13:00.000-07:002007-03-29T20:13:00.000-07:00tink, well you are right in general, but this woma...tink, well you are right in general, but this woman has to work at it.<BR/><BR/>moi, i am not al lthat spititual, but this day i felt like i was. I felt like you describe.<BR/><BR/>lee, thank you. I think that's the human condition. We want to share so much that we miss some real opportunities.<BR/><BR/>liv, i sure felt that wind. In my case, no bears are included. Too bad.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-39684582041739748182007-03-29T19:13:00.000-07:002007-03-29T19:13:00.000-07:00Bears. The wind doth blow, huh?Bears. The wind doth blow, huh?Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-34486933834033836542007-03-29T18:33:00.000-07:002007-03-29T18:33:00.000-07:00I need a lot of work in this area...I get so excit...I need a lot of work in this area...I get so excited about a common connection that I want to share my own experience or thought and I miss out on a chance to truly understand. Lovely post.Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14915252268400469774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-9514352069704812122007-03-29T15:51:00.000-07:002007-03-29T15:51:00.000-07:00You did a lot for your friend by waiting and then ...You did a lot for your friend by waiting and then telling her that what she was sharing really reached you in a special way.<BR/>I'm not religious, as in going to church, but I think I am more spiritual than many people. I'm in tune with my inner spirit a lot of the time and I feel connected to the larger world and "beyond".Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-36416355696490936062007-03-29T13:29:00.000-07:002007-03-29T13:29:00.000-07:00gr, i thought you might like that. As usual, this...gr, i thought you might like that. As usual, this picture has nothing to do with my post, i just like it.<BR/><BR/>caro, well hell, of course you do! If you are always the listener and never the listened to, that hurts. And it's not healthy on either side of the ear.<BR/><BR/>chani, why thank you. I had never made the connection before myself. But (in my view) what are we without our connections to other people, and animals and the earth? Nothing.<BR/><BR/>tracy, i just hope to be able to keep this in mind more often. If i am you maybe i should paint. :)<BR/><BR/>holly, nicely? i think we are trying to be helpful. Maybe more realistically? We like to hear ourselves talk more than we like to listen.<BR/><BR/>dick, that sounds just lovely. Ain't retirement grand? Slow communication. I think we should start a movement.<BR/><BR/>jennifer, i know what you mean about this community. No need to hide who we are or to jump to conclusions based on looks. It's all about the words.<BR/><BR/>maggie, i do it too. This was an eye opener as far as what can happen if i try to "grok" what the other person is saying rather than planning my brilliant response.<BR/><BR/>ttq, i clearly need more practice. I plan to start with those at home.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-29803172496996326652007-03-29T13:23:00.000-07:002007-03-29T13:23:00.000-07:00I think women are naturally spiritual. :)I think women are naturally spiritual. :)Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-15136831000037435802007-03-29T12:45:00.000-07:002007-03-29T12:45:00.000-07:00true humility...to just shut up and listen. It tak...true humility...to just shut up and listen. It takes practice, but develops over time. It's not that the wind is blowing it's how HARD the wind is blowing.TTQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09888187290526881563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-10914447554116331742007-03-29T12:22:00.000-07:002007-03-29T12:22:00.000-07:00Its funny how many people (myself) think that list...Its funny how many people (myself) think that listening is when you are hearing what they say and planning what to say based on that. But you're so right. That's not it at all. It's listening to only hear what they are saying. I do the other one all too often.Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255266354171825474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-64653769549456339432007-03-29T11:57:00.000-07:002007-03-29T11:57:00.000-07:00Speaking from the Eileen side of that equation, it...Speaking from the Eileen side of that equation, it is a rare and wonderful thing when you truly believe another person is not just hearing you, but listening. It's a reason I love the blog community so much. My "invisible" friends know more about me, truly and really, than most people who know me in person ever will. Because by reading me, they're hearing me. And - for the most part - getting me. <BR/><BR/>To be able to give that back to people sincerely? Well, it's just incredible. As you, clearly, know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54878690652344470512007-03-29T11:08:00.000-07:002007-03-29T11:08:00.000-07:00A good and thoughtful post. Communication is gett...A good and thoughtful post. Communication is getting to be a lost art in this day of text messaging, etc. I guess that is one thing I love about going out for mochas. This morning I didn't read either my book or magazine but instead talked with a couple of old guys like me who were there at Starbucks. While I can't say that we solved the world's problems, it was an enjoyable time. And I still have the book & magazine for the next time.Dickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12381970360203140143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-55356871388238946302007-03-29T10:28:00.000-07:002007-03-29T10:28:00.000-07:00it's so hard to just listen, and not jump in with ...it's so hard to just listen, and not jump in with a solution. why do we do that so often?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28678120863951519652007-03-29T09:21:00.000-07:002007-03-29T09:21:00.000-07:00Again proving that you and I are actually the same...Again proving that you and I are actually the same person. I struggle daily with myself to listen to people and to not think about what experience I have had that is similar to their problem.<BR/><BR/>I actually feel much understanding towards others but do a terrible job of showing it. <BR/><BR/>I will listen for that wind next time. Surely I will hear it if I keep my mouth shut!Tracy Helgesonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07510044613771862211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-81060366845695397532007-03-29T09:16:00.000-07:002007-03-29T09:16:00.000-07:00Interesting! The connection between empathy and sp...Interesting! The connection between empathy and spirituality is one that's not often acknowledged but you are exactly spot on, right on target!<BR/><BR/>As for the other, yes, I think we find a certain freedom in accepting that our parents were just people, just like us, with all their own issues and their own damage. It wasn't "all about us" after all. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-58176433571375122372007-03-29T09:02:00.000-07:002007-03-29T09:02:00.000-07:00Trying to walk a mile in my Mom and Dad's shoes is...Trying to walk a mile in my Mom and Dad's shoes is what has helped me to overcome the anger and bitterness I harbored towards them. The added bonus is that it has bled into most of my relationships. I'll admit though, I sometimes wish people gave as much a shit abput me as I do about them...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-36805929658319214242007-03-29T08:39:00.000-07:002007-03-29T08:39:00.000-07:00Always useful to illustrate ones' points with pott...Always useful to illustrate ones' points with pottery.gary rithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18228113061045717115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-14479751602597352032007-03-29T07:50:00.000-07:002007-03-29T07:50:00.000-07:00deb, exactly. Without feeling heard, ever, we are...deb, exactly. Without feeling heard, ever, we are really quite alone.<BR/><BR/>lynn, luckily we were walking fast enough so that no odor was noticable. :)<BR/><BR/>nancy, i hope so. Should i bill her? :)<BR/><BR/>jen, in a cirle of life, taking care of one another sort of way. Exactly.<BR/><BR/>d-man, liar, i just read that you eschew alcohol. I prefer wine, vodka is a bit too spiritual for me.<BR/><BR/>sanjay, i think of spiritual as a "we are all connected" "let's take care of each other" understanding. But it's individual of course.<BR/><BR/>suzanne, epiphany, a lovely word. <BR/><BR/>lucia, that's a great idea. I just dread them. We are going to a social event this weekend. I think i'll try this.<BR/><BR/>qt, multitasking is the curse of the easily bored. At least it is for me. I need to remember to listen more too. It really can be rewarding.<BR/><BR/>mona, thanks. It was just a glimpse, but it was enough.<BR/><BR/>de, you can put bits of it into words. maybe someday the bits will add up to a whole. That's what i'm shooting for anyway.<BR/><BR/>patches, i don't think it could have happened with someone whom i didn't know well. But i will be keeping this in mind and trying to do it more often.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-67811867159618513742007-03-29T07:20:00.000-07:002007-03-29T07:20:00.000-07:00I considered myself to be a pretty good listener u...I considered myself to be a pretty good listener until I read your post. It made me realize often, I am just being quiet...not the same thing. The connection that you mentioned, is truly enlightening when you experience it. In some ways it's like encountering the other half of your whole.jadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326141253899975708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-73313943099865966482007-03-29T07:04:00.000-07:002007-03-29T07:04:00.000-07:00Ah. There is something on the wind. Yours is yet...Ah. There is <I>something</I> on the wind. Yours is yet another post that is relevant to what I've been trying to work out in my mind about my relationships. I am resigned that I'll never put it in to words, but hopefully at least I'll get something out of it for myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-76046503097678901302007-03-29T06:03:00.000-07:002007-03-29T06:03:00.000-07:00Something in my head about the 'wind of enlightenm...Something in my head about the 'wind of enlightenment', but it's coming out too sappy. There's something, some force, that blows through us when we put ourselves in the shoes of others. <BR/><BR/>You put this so beautifully, Meno. A nice example for us all to set.Mona Buonanottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809435868294190789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21439913772974497052007-03-29T05:06:00.000-07:002007-03-29T05:06:00.000-07:00What a great explanation of the "wow, i totally ge...What a great explanation of the "wow, i totally get you" feeling. I have had that feeling before too.<BR/><BR/>I'm afraid I am not a very good listener. I am usually trying to do something else while listening, and that is not the way to really pay attention to someone. I will try to be more mindful of this in the future, because I think you are right - people need to feel understood.QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.com