tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post2647001839175304331..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: How hard would it have been to say some kinder words instead? *menohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-64614627637564128392007-02-24T18:24:00.000-08:002007-02-24T18:24:00.000-08:00Happy anniversary to you both! My mother never st...Happy anniversary to you both! <BR/><BR/>My mother never stopped belittling me and I never managed to ignore it.<BR/><BR/>When she had bunion surgery, I flew to Miami from NY with my youngest child at considerable inconvenience and expense to nurse her through her recovery for several weeks. <BR/><BR/>As I walked into her hospital room, she said to her young, handsome doctor, "This is my daughter. She's 40 but she still acts like a little girl."<BR/><BR/>I felt so humiliated that I left, took her car and drove across Florida to Sanibel with my daughter, only returning when she was discharged from the hospital.<BR/><BR/>And this was probably one of our lesser incidents.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13436188384346151422007-02-22T13:50:00.000-08:002007-02-22T13:50:00.000-08:00liv, blogger giving you trouble? Yeah, the second...liv, blogger giving you trouble? Yeah, the second one would have caused my mom to sputter indignantly "You know what i mean!" Thank you.<BR/><BR/>u-u, yeah, a long loong looong time. :)<BR/><BR/>jennifer, i can't believe it either! Congratulations. :) My mom makes it so easy to push her buttons, and since i've never had much self restraint....<BR/><BR/>jhianna, thank you!menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-15594350255203641382007-02-22T13:03:00.000-08:002007-02-22T13:03:00.000-08:00Happy (belated) Anniversary!Happy (belated) Anniversary!Jhiannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13961562933937294762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-46138416866495090652007-02-22T09:31:00.000-08:002007-02-22T09:31:00.000-08:00Mothers and buttons. I know that game. From both s...Mothers and buttons. I know that game. From both sides now, as it happens! Mwahahahaha.<BR/><BR/>I'll be joining you at the 25 year mark in May. And no, I can't believe it, either!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-26330545036999486602007-02-21T19:21:00.000-08:002007-02-21T19:21:00.000-08:0025 years is a long time! YOu guys have been throu...25 years is a long time! YOu guys have been through a lot, it's fantastic that you guys have come so far. <BR/><BR/>My mom can push all my buttons too so I know how this feels.urban-urchinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18001320142893492171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-44060359277130944162007-02-21T18:32:00.000-08:002007-02-21T18:32:00.000-08:00Ugh! I swear I left a comment, and where is it? A...Ugh! I swear I left a comment, and where is it? Anyway, I was going to say I liked either answer 2 or answer 4. They are both more bear pokingly delicious. Happy Anniversary!Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-17434678797096223552007-02-21T18:08:00.000-08:002007-02-21T18:08:00.000-08:00bob, you mean in London? Tell her to look for the...bob, you mean in London? Tell her to look for the ridiculously tall woman.<BR/><BR/>tink, i waited until they left, it was lunch after all. Thank you. :)<BR/><BR/>sari, thank you. She has a new album and is touring. We are going to see her next month. Yay!<BR/><BR/>egan, i guess i'll get what i pay for!menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-2086017527418295542007-02-21T16:33:00.000-08:002007-02-21T16:33:00.000-08:00One buck an hour. Fair enough?One buck an hour. Fair enough?eganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03783658744477659987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-34654242816160815812007-02-21T15:25:00.000-08:002007-02-21T15:25:00.000-08:00Happy Anniversary!I like Patty Griffin also.Happy Anniversary!<BR/><BR/>I like Patty Griffin also.sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-5207532490531454952007-02-21T13:46:00.000-08:002007-02-21T13:46:00.000-08:00I would have cracked into that wine right about th...I would have cracked into that wine right about then. ;)<BR/><BR/>Happy big two-five.Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-33783787478072069932007-02-21T13:12:00.000-08:002007-02-21T13:12:00.000-08:00hey - you and Laura will be there at the same time...hey - you and Laura will be there at the same time. Be sure to wave when you see her.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-72237460747759326912007-02-21T13:08:00.000-08:002007-02-21T13:08:00.000-08:00holly, thank you! and of course free fine!MOI, It...holly, thank you! and of course free fine!<BR/><BR/>MOI, It does indeed have a nice ring. :) Both of my siblings are brothers. I think it doesn't bother them as much, or they do a better job of tuning it out.<BR/><BR/>chani, i would have been happier with a pleasant lunch. And thank you.<BR/><BR/>herimiah, life before marriage? What is this life you speak of? Thank you for the congrats!<BR/><BR/>d-man, i am holding that thought close. Unfortunately their taste in wines does not match mine.<BR/><BR/>lisa, he's a smart man!<BR/><BR/>bob, it was. thank you. Your method is pretty much what i do, along with some dreading beforehand and complaining afterwards.<BR/><BR/>marsha, you would NOT recognize that area anymore. Will work on forgiveness...... Thank you!<BR/><BR/>antonia, my mother would not be silly enough to bet on anything, wehat were you thinking. Hmmph! We are still thinking about London. I will certainly let you know. I think it will be in May. I wonder how pork uteri will be received in Customs?<BR/><BR/>ortizzle, thank you! yeah, the wine will help with the forgetting.<BR/><BR/>patches, thank you. Sometimes it has been touch and go, but we are still here.<BR/><BR/>mal s, thank you.<BR/><BR/>qt, i take congratulations any old time, so no worries.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-25883764051705691162007-02-21T12:55:00.000-08:002007-02-21T12:55:00.000-08:00Oh man, sorry I am late with my Congratulations! 2...Oh man, sorry I am late with my Congratulations! 25 years is an achievement no matter who you are.<BR/><BR/>And I agree with ortizzle - forgetting is going to be way easier, sounds like!QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-56177253186987281112007-02-21T09:51:00.000-08:002007-02-21T09:51:00.000-08:00Congratulations, meno. You don't reach 25 years wi...Congratulations, meno. You don't reach 25 years without working hard every day. Your Dad probably puts up with her crappy attitude because he has always put up with her crappy attitude. He's hardly ever experienced her under any other circumstances. They're a lot like my in-laws. We'll be toasting to you and the Mister!jadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12326141253899975708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-47828160958882748392007-02-21T09:37:00.000-08:002007-02-21T09:37:00.000-08:00Happy Anniversary! Your mom: sometimes forgetting ...Happy Anniversary! <BR/><BR/>Your mom: sometimes forgetting is easier than forgiving. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-78730230172579799702007-02-21T07:58:00.000-08:002007-02-21T07:58:00.000-08:00So, did she lose a bet? Huh?Happy anniversary to y...So, did she lose a bet? Huh?<BR/><BR/>Happy anniversary to you both, Meno!! Your Mister is a lucky man.<BR/><BR/>If you're still thinking of London for that anniversary trip, drop me an email. (If you want to meet up, you'll have to bring a bag of pork uteri so I recognise you. I don't see many people carrying those.)Antonia Cornwellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12754292976861979028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-32832910297836777522007-02-21T07:44:00.000-08:002007-02-21T07:44:00.000-08:00I went to Silver Lake Elementary School.I hope you...I went to Silver Lake Elementary School.<BR/><BR/>I hope you do decide to forgive your mom, that doesn't mean that you condone her behavior now or then, just that you don't pull up all those very toxic thoughts everytime you have to be around her or think of her. <BR/><BR/>And, Happy Anniversary!Marshamlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00604324969370405697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-1861321484281486652007-02-21T05:36:00.000-08:002007-02-21T05:36:00.000-08:00Congratulations on your 25th anniversary. I hope ...Congratulations on your 25th anniversary. I hope it was a good one.<BR/><BR/>I suspect you realize that your mom isn't going to change and that your just getting the latest off of your chest. Sometimes the best relationships are at a distance. We had a similar situation with my mother-in-law and it took a series of strokes to change her personality. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, so - grin and bear it and wave bye with a smile - of relief.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88337214549625816172007-02-21T05:25:00.000-08:002007-02-21T05:25:00.000-08:00I agree with d-man.I agree with d-man.peevishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14135920853307511091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-15033229251752716122007-02-21T02:18:00.000-08:002007-02-21T02:18:00.000-08:00Still...FREE WINE!!!Still...FREE WINE!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-79999567076753708572007-02-21T00:21:00.000-08:002007-02-21T00:21:00.000-08:00Twenty-five years. Wow. I'm coming up on 15 and, a...Twenty-five years. Wow. I'm coming up on 15 and, already, it feels like the only memory I have pre-marriage involves myself and a pacifier and mommy pushing me in a stroller. I did go to college, right? I had a life a-fore marriage, right? Please, help me remember!<BR/><BR/>But, much congrats to you. There is a silver lining. 25 years of marriage is love's silver lining. (OOOH! flashes the sign above the audience).Elliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09276602228894928374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-84038304813207591952007-02-20T20:49:00.000-08:002007-02-20T20:49:00.000-08:00People seem to express themselves in such unusual ...People seem to express themselves in such unusual ways. For her, the wine and the dishes were the height of generosity when you both probably would have been perfectly happy with a *pleasant* lunch. <BR/><BR/>I've found that negative people rarely change. It becomes a habit, like throat-clearing or nail-chewing. <BR/><BR/>Happy Anniversary to both you and the Mister. Just be happy. You've both earned it. :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~Chanithailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-62696755692981590122007-02-20T20:27:00.000-08:002007-02-20T20:27:00.000-08:00Hey, Congrats on the 25th! It does kinda have a n...Hey, Congrats on the 25th! It does kinda have a nice ring to it. (We had our 26th last July)<BR/>I would just try to ignore and out up with them when you have to...otherwise let go what you possibly can. Speak up for your dad when your mom's really cutting him up. Do any of your other siblings get the same vibes from her? How do they deal with it?Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-38742590528168256872007-02-20T17:56:00.000-08:002007-02-20T17:56:00.000-08:00meno, happy anniversary, y'all have earned it. 25...meno, happy anniversary, y'all have earned it. 25 years is a long time to put up with someone's crap.<BR/><BR/>you know how, after something is over, or you're away from it for awhile, you kind of forget some of the rough corners? maybe someday your relationship with your mama will be that way. but, hey, atleast you're getting some lovely dishes for your basement!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-49718155399447645052007-02-20T17:34:00.000-08:002007-02-20T17:34:00.000-08:00lynn, thank you, we plan to do just that.melessa, ...lynn, thank you, we plan to do just that.<BR/><BR/>melessa, thank you. and if our mothers are anything alike they would HATE each other.<BR/><BR/>ttq, I have asked my mom on more than one occasion to knock it off, at least in front of me. I told her that it makes me not want to spend time with them, which is sad. But i think she is unable to control herself. Sad, really.<BR/><BR/>egan is your rate for advice 5 cents? Or maybe a bit higher? Glad you like the yellow.<BR/><BR/>toni, thank you. I just wonder why she must be so mean to this man, and ultimately, why he tolerates it. Ick.<BR/><BR/>joan, Thank you. i knew you'd understand about the child bride thing.<BR/><BR/>mrs.chili, if that means a manhatten, the i'm all over that action! And thank you.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.com