tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post4825998669638606534..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Mommy, dearestmenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-30579656370710298272008-01-09T13:12:00.000-08:002008-01-09T13:12:00.000-08:00I choose to risk annoyance rather than having to k...I choose to risk annoyance rather than having to kick myself later for not saying anything, thus making us all miserable...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654221659666974164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13241772581490750192008-01-08T18:09:00.000-08:002008-01-08T18:09:00.000-08:00I never know what to do either. If he'd LEARN, th...I never know what to do either. If he'd LEARN, then I'd just let him learn. But he doesn't, and then it affects me too. Maybe I might bring his hat and gloves in my pockets, and hand them over when he started complaining.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-73463487053241158862008-01-07T22:12:00.000-08:002008-01-07T22:12:00.000-08:00Tough one, but I air toward doing what makes you h...Tough one, but I air toward doing what makes you happy, not him. and telling him to shut up and stop acting like a baby, whether it be about taking advice or being cold. Play nice.Andrea Frazerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293267612840259503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-82923774929063676372008-01-07T16:21:00.000-08:002008-01-07T16:21:00.000-08:00...and then there's traveling with someone you sor......and then there's traveling with someone you sort of know well, but who is, on the other hand, a stranger -- and, um, well, when does co-piloting/navigating devolve into just driving someone nuts?amusinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03347183179627696626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-66609614091585890302008-01-07T11:53:00.000-08:002008-01-07T11:53:00.000-08:00OH we just had this argument, i mean discussion, h...OH we just had this argument, i mean discussion, here last night.<BR/><BR/>i am not a good cook so my husband takes it upon himself to remind me of a lot of things when I'm cooking. which irritates me. and makes me more of a not good cook.<BR/><BR/>on the flip side, sometimes i forget things when i'm cooking and need reminding. it's a tough circle, isn't it?sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13182964541567436192008-01-07T07:55:00.000-08:002008-01-07T07:55:00.000-08:00I'd say let him deal, but CAN you? It's pretty muc...I'd say let him deal, but CAN you? It's pretty much ingrained in me to play the Mommy. I don't think I'd be comfortable supressing that. I'd always think, "I should have said something..."Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54631308268808608712008-01-06T16:22:00.000-08:002008-01-06T16:22:00.000-08:00I like the "I'm bringing my hat and gloves because...I like the "I'm bringing my hat and gloves because it's cold," announcement idea. Except I would add, "...and if you don't, I don't want to hear about how cold you are." This would be done in a charmingly humorous way that would make everyone in my family love me even more than they already do. Oh, the fun I have.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21340463466193750352008-01-06T11:13:00.000-08:002008-01-06T11:13:00.000-08:00I watch my husband spend hours looking for things ...I watch my husband spend hours looking for things that he can't find, because he doesn't put them away properly. And my son hides things on purpose and then can't find them. The only one I make put a coat on is Katie and she still does as she pleases anyway.<BR/><BR/>But all of it just irritates the crap out of me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54515936578315196432008-01-06T09:40:00.000-08:002008-01-06T09:40:00.000-08:00Just call me Cassandra - always warning, no one li...Just call me Cassandra - always warning, no one listens, I'm always right.<BR/><BR/>I have learned there is great joy to be had in letting someone hang themselves and silently congratulating yourself.QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-73530071049265981952008-01-06T09:37:00.000-08:002008-01-06T09:37:00.000-08:00My son feels offended and takes it as an affront t...My son feels offended and takes it as an affront to his burgeoning independence if I remind him of such things. He's almost 21, so I refrain. That's fine. I remember what it's like.<BR/><BR/>My husband, on the other hand, feels that it is purely caring and nurturing when I do that. And I feel the same way when he does it for me. Egos don't get involved at all—we just appreciate that the other one cares. It's really nice to reach that point. <BR/><BR/>But there are areas in which we refrain with each other, too, because we know it won't be taken the right way. Or just out of respect.<BR/><BR/>Not black and white, I guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-17374564477343920042008-01-06T09:17:00.000-08:002008-01-06T09:17:00.000-08:00I don't even have a child, and I'm like that, but ...I don't even have a child, and I'm like that, but even though it bug my mister, he pisses me off even more when he loses his glasses/bite-plate/good pen/PDA/cell-phone/scarf...Bobealia...https://www.blogger.com/profile/15713026993668872520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-65830177111569499282008-01-05T22:11:00.000-08:002008-01-05T22:11:00.000-08:00I could have written this. Groan. Every time Fli...I could have written this. Groan. Every time Flip and I go for a walk, he is sure he doesn't need a warm jacket, no matter what I say. And as soon as we reach the street, he realizes that he's cold and I have to wait while he goes back upstairs and gets one. <BR/><BR/>Every bloody time. I also tell myself I'm not his mother, though God knows he needs one. I don't want to insult his intelligence by nagging, so if you ever hit on a solution that doesn't involve homicide detectives, please share it.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-3879053461298698742008-01-05T21:17:00.000-08:002008-01-05T21:17:00.000-08:00I'll have to sit on the sidelines on this one, as ...I'll have to sit on the sidelines on this one, as I'm the one who tends to get irritated if reminded of things I know but don't always remember. Especially in the car.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88297664580782572152008-01-05T16:03:00.000-08:002008-01-05T16:03:00.000-08:00Chiming in for the mister on this one, I forget al...Chiming in for the mister on this one, I forget alot because I often live in my own mind and manage to still be absent minded. Honey removes my cell phone from my purse when he gets in from work and charges it, then will replace it in my purse before he goes to work.. However, that doesn't remind me to actually turn it off silent mode so I am often MIA.<BR/><BR/>Also he reminds me to take my medicines (which I have to do 4 times a day).. <BR/><BR/>Oh and sunglasses I must own 10 pairs and never have a pair in my purse..he'll throw those in my purse for me too.<BR/><BR/>I'm a mess..TTQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09888187290526881563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-77037409155579850392008-01-05T12:30:00.000-08:002008-01-05T12:30:00.000-08:00For over ten years now I have consciously tried to...For over ten years now I have consciously tried to stop being controlling and have tried to frequently remind myself that I am not his mother. There is, though, a fine line between being considerate and a helpmate, and being controlling and mothering. And I think that line exists in their brains. He is allowed to go through the list with me and he's being helpful. When I attempt to remind him, I am accused of thinking he is stupid.luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-67703944360572164772008-01-05T10:42:00.000-08:002008-01-05T10:42:00.000-08:00I hear you about the whining. I can just picture ...I hear you about the whining. I can just picture the eye rolling that occurred when that started up. I suppose if someone is going to whine then they really have no place accusing you of acting like their mother now do they?Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255266354171825474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-78417058759427778532008-01-05T10:36:00.000-08:002008-01-05T10:36:00.000-08:00I think tt hit on the right idea. Rather than rem...I think tt hit on the right idea. Rather than reminding him/her of what to take, why not say something along the line of, "It might be overkill but I am wearing my warm hat on this walk" before you start out? That would be a gentle reminder without sounding like you are trying to tell him/her what they should do.Dickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12381970360203140143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-76583906725407146492008-01-05T10:29:00.000-08:002008-01-05T10:29:00.000-08:00man, what a tough spot...you're damned if you do, ...man, what a tough spot...you're damned if you do, and damned if you don't.<BR/><BR/>for variety -and to confuse them- you could switch back and forth, sometimes reminding them, sometimes letting them remember on their own. unfortunately, it sounds like you're going to pay either way..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-78863434137978216922008-01-05T10:01:00.000-08:002008-01-05T10:01:00.000-08:00It's hard sometimes not to sound saecastic and nag...It's hard sometimes not to sound saecastic and nagging but I suppose there 's no way of knowing how the tone will sound to them anyway. Guess I'd try gently reminding if it was a situation that would really affect me too...and hope for the best interpretation!Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-64004736692550096612008-01-05T09:44:00.000-08:002008-01-05T09:44:00.000-08:00lynn, i get tired of listening to myself, so i try...lynn, i get tired of listening to myself, so i try to pick and choose my nags. For instance i do remind Em to put on sunscreen so she won't get burned to a crisp.<BR/><BR/>jenn, that would drive me crazy too. I don't see my mom that often, but she does try to give me "advive". I ignore her.<BR/><BR/>jodi, i've given up on the picking up of stuff. I m just as guilty as anyone of that. If i nag them, they might nag me back.<BR/><BR/>ms. chica, two weeks? That must be getting REAL old by now. (Bad grammar, i know.) Sounds like you don't want to win as mommy of the year.<BR/><BR/>lu, wait until they learn to drive, how they will miss your lectures! Or not.<BR/><BR/>joan, interesting to hear it from the other perspective, as the nagee.<BR/><BR/>etk, i do slip up and gently remind fairly often, especially to my daughter. I answer comments because i like to know i was heard when i leave comments myself. So, good for you, i bet people will appreciate it.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-9725907434299920482008-01-05T08:24:00.000-08:002008-01-05T08:24:00.000-08:00I wish I could be as patient as you - I usually ca...I wish I could be as patient as you - I usually can't stop myself from "gently reminding". Mainly because I don't want to have to deal with the consequences. I'll keep checking back to see what everyone comes up with. TT's advice is pretty good - but she's always been like that.<BR/><BR/>BTW - you've inspired me. I love how you seem to respond to each and every commenter by name. I'm going to work on that.ETKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07079117807919253379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-69027821276062070222008-01-05T08:20:00.000-08:002008-01-05T08:20:00.000-08:00As the recipient of many "gentle reminders" (Hubby...As the recipient of many "gentle reminders" (Hubby likes to play "mommy" every once in a while), I usually just turn off my hearing and ignore him. That way he thinks he's doing me a favor and we don't get into a huge argument. Works every time!Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05589769742639537861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-42275376998983115162008-01-05T06:08:00.000-08:002008-01-05T06:08:00.000-08:00With the boys deep into their 13th year and all of...With the boys deep into their 13th year and all of the attitude that this brings on, I'm afraid I'm developing the "Church Lady" face. I struggle to check my unwelcome suggestions with varying degrees of success. If only I could stop the, "you're trapped in the car with me lectures." - As Nancy notes, I clean up a lot of messes and endure an awful lot of that --"but Mom, you didn't..."<BR/><BR/>If the shoes on the other foot--I like to throw it at the well meaning nagger. <BR/><BR/>I'm such a hypocrite when it comes to mothering mumbo jumbo.luhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486545199810361580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-29367528081154949292008-01-05T05:51:00.000-08:002008-01-05T05:51:00.000-08:00You have successfully summed the past two weeks fo...You have successfully summed the past two weeks for me, and my Mister doesn't return to work until the 17th.<BR/><BR/>It sounds as though you have consequences with both options. Sooooo it depends on which consequence you are willing to deal with at the moment. The more time I spend with my Mister (as in consecutive days off) the more likely I am to leave him to his own devices and be smug about it. I decided winning wife of the year wasn't that important. At least not this year.ms chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11281861496244331321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-70239103599589679792008-01-05T05:39:00.000-08:002008-01-05T05:39:00.000-08:00hmmm, i do this too. i get onto everybody to pick...hmmm, i do this too. i get onto everybody to pick up all their "stuff" lying around the house and then I leave MY stuff around the house. it's more fun to tell them what to do then actually DO anything myself!slow panichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806001325853693285noreply@blogger.com