tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post4858025989789822938..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Scorekeepingmenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-14252287192849299472009-03-29T12:55:00.000-07:002009-03-29T12:55:00.000-07:00"In any relationship you are either a giver or a t..."In any relationship you are either a giver or a taker. Takers keep score to justify the taking."<BR/>Dr Phil<BR/><BR/>"Do as I say, not as I do!"<BR/>LZMluckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-67062740861538585302009-03-26T07:36:00.000-07:002009-03-26T07:36:00.000-07:00I'm a score keeper. I also have a very good memory...I'm a score keeper. I also have a very good memory. So I keep score from things that happened three to eight years ago. It's kind of exhausting, to tell you the truth. Rain-X for shower doors and such works brilliantly. It was my little trick when I was selling my house.Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-8376445611037159302009-03-19T14:29:00.000-07:002009-03-19T14:29:00.000-07:00de, no WAY would i keep score against myself. I c...de, no WAY would i keep score against myself. I can't even count that high!<BR/><BR/>jen, it is exhausting, and soooo stupid. I'm honored that you stopped by, i know how hard it is for you to get a connection.<BR/><BR/>suebob, special. Yep, i'm special.<BR/><BR/>clowncar, really, everybody does? I think you might be right, but not everyone admits it.<BR/><BR/>dick, we had our shower built with two heads, so we could shower together. The first time we tried it, we discovered that The Mister likes the water about 10 degress hotter than i can stand it. <BR/><BR/>hearts, i think it's a remnant from childhood, when score was loudly kept, about everything.<BR/><BR/>dianne, i don't know if i will be able to stop, but i can at least laugh at myself and then erase the scoreboard and start over.<BR/><BR/>sari, i know, you'd think we were 4years old.<BR/><BR/>maggie, good thing i don't kow how golf is scored. So i'm still ahead.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-71759534745926844062009-03-19T13:04:00.000-07:002009-03-19T13:04:00.000-07:00Oh my god I am so superior to my husband too! You...Oh my god I am so superior to my husband too! You should see my score card. <BR/><BR/>Maybe we need to change our mental outlook about it. Perhaps the truth is that this scoring goes by golf rules, which puts me waaaay behind him. Ha.Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255266354171825474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-52513755674222930632009-03-18T19:23:00.000-07:002009-03-18T19:23:00.000-07:00I hate when I act like a baby, and I seem to do it...I hate when I act like a baby, and I seem to do it a lot. I'm working on that.sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-9630320326759423442009-03-18T16:50:00.000-07:002009-03-18T16:50:00.000-07:00I do the same thing and I'm working on stopping! i...I do the same thing and I'm working on stopping! it is exhausting!! hell - sometimes I keep score on me!<BR/><BR/>I was thinking of you today - a few people have recently "stolen" the ME Too badge from me and that always makes me think of you - it's how we met ;)Diannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02946500110072411468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-41879216078708023362009-03-18T11:09:00.000-07:002009-03-18T11:09:00.000-07:00Perhaps this issue is dear to you because it stand...Perhaps this issue is dear to you because it stands for something deeper that needs to be addressed.<BR/><BR/>Flip and I have always shared everything equally, the workload and the benefits. His disease has changed that, and I now carry a larger load but remind myself of his track record when I feel resentful. It's easier to think that life is unfair than that ones partner is.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-14068369195972646352009-03-17T16:29:00.000-07:002009-03-17T16:29:00.000-07:00I think the obvious solution to the shower door th...I think the obvious solution to the shower door thing is to shower together. It is nice to have someone else to wash one's back. Then you can squeegee together.Dickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12381970360203140143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-36895358821544209242009-03-17T08:28:00.000-07:002009-03-17T08:28:00.000-07:00You do that.I do that.Everybody does that.You sque...You do that.<BR/><BR/>I do that.<BR/><BR/>Everybody does that.<BR/><BR/>You squeegee your shower door for people looking at your house? We're lucky to get the cat poop off the carpet in time.Clowncarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02219213001049223673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-48238049073925253412009-03-16T22:12:00.000-07:002009-03-16T22:12:00.000-07:00We are all psycho in our own special ways!We are all psycho in our own special ways!SUEB0Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-41208969745348591962009-03-16T08:31:00.000-07:002009-03-16T08:31:00.000-07:00god Meno. I keep score too.and it exhausts me. utt...god Meno. I keep score too.<BR/><BR/>and it exhausts me. utterly.<BR/><BR/>i've missed you.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28228660447749727562009-03-15T17:30:00.000-07:002009-03-15T17:30:00.000-07:00OK, but do you do this one? Keep score for him ag...OK, but do you do this one? Keep score <I>for him</I> against yourself? That's really fun, especially when you get defensive and pick a fight because you've counted up a bunch of scores <I>for him</I> against yourself that he would be really pissed about, if he were you?<BR/><BR/>I really know how to keep things fun!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-85581127767670694162009-03-15T16:44:00.000-07:002009-03-15T16:44:00.000-07:00flutter, i am bad at denial. Must practice more.m...flutter, i am bad at denial. Must practice more.<BR/><BR/>marsha, that's actually pretty funny, and sounds healthy in a way.<BR/><BR/>jaded, yep, that's HOT!<BR/><BR/>holly, 9am? well, maybe a LITTLE early, but what the hell?<BR/><BR/>deb, i am hoping that awareness will help, at least a little.<BR/><BR/>mignon, god, we are so funny! You win by being MORE fair!<BR/><BR/>cheesy, oooh, thanks for the tip.<BR/><BR/>schmoopie, it's my life's ambition! Do what you love and the money will follow. We'll see.<BR/><BR/>mrs. 4444, oooh, i hate that when he's right!<BR/><BR/>cagey, i wonder if leaving the towel to mildew would get the message across. No, i don't think so.<BR/><BR/>gina, that's a tough one. I can try and let it go because i no longer work. But when i did, i was bitter about the housework.<BR/><BR/>robin, you have described me acurately. Sucks though.<BR/><BR/>mother hen, ha! I do that and keep score. Guess i am good at math. :)<BR/><BR/>irrelephant, yes, someone is listening. You are not very helpful with the quitting advice, i was hoping for something more concrete, like swing a dead cat by the tail three times around your head and face the full moon while howling.<BR/><BR/>ttq, too pretty to be mean??!! Aha ha ahha hha haha haha! That's a good one.<BR/><BR/>colleen, You made me laugh. "The Pile That Dare Not Speak It's Name."menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-87294028768098014272009-03-15T14:19:00.000-07:002009-03-15T14:19:00.000-07:00I pick up all my husband's stuff and put it in a p...I pick up all my husband's stuff and put it in a pile in the corner of the bedroom until he can get to it. No one ever speaks of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21402778704375685002009-03-15T13:33:00.000-07:002009-03-15T13:33:00.000-07:00Guilty is as Guilty does. Everyday my husband neve...Guilty is as Guilty does. Everyday my husband never fails to <BR/><BR/>Ask: "Are you going to be mean again today?"<BR/><BR/>"Of course I'm going to be mean meat head because you ask me this every day!"<BR/><BR/>"You are very pretty, you couldn't be mean if you tried!"<BR/><BR/>"Try me Honey, just fucking try me"<BR/><BR/>Ta-da! You see how that works for us?TTQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09888187290526881563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-73539739304759968502009-03-15T13:21:00.000-07:002009-03-15T13:21:00.000-07:00meno, that's exactly it. Hmmm... someone IS liste...meno, that's exactly it. Hmmm... someone IS listening. Nice. How? I just finally let myself realise that I was spending HUGE amounts of my valuable energy and time on someone that really doesn't matter a gnat's fart to me, and that it was a rather stupid thing, so I just stopped doing it. Kind of like stopping a bad habit, just mental.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-1541106179309650562009-03-15T11:04:00.000-07:002009-03-15T11:04:00.000-07:00I blow up and chew his head off before I can keep ...I blow up and chew his head off before I can keep a score! :)The Real Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226727195920798035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13694682128631549822009-03-14T21:14:00.000-07:002009-03-14T21:14:00.000-07:00i too am a secret score keeper. i hate it because...i too am a secret score keeper. <BR/><BR/>i hate it because it's petty and i like to think i'm not...petty, that is.<BR/><BR/>but secretly, i like the fact that i'm superior to others.<BR/><BR/>i'm trying to do better though.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10923422194961455269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-81269758535739709572009-03-14T16:56:00.000-07:002009-03-14T16:56:00.000-07:00I am a huge scorekeeper. I get frustrated because ...I am a huge scorekeeper. I get frustrated because I work as much and and hard as mr b does but I do 95% or more of house and child care. But I know I have to stop because all i do when I keep score is get more frustrated and unappealing. But it's SO HARD.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00684328990767140199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-25415508375494797292009-03-14T15:24:00.000-07:002009-03-14T15:24:00.000-07:00I totally Keep Score, also.It was a few years befo...I totally Keep Score, also.<BR/><BR/>It was a few years before I figured out that my husband really, truly, absolutely did NOT leave his towel all wadded up for me to hang up. He just did not think to hang it up with no ulterior motive whatsoever. And he was shocked that 1) I thought he did it on purpose and 2)that I cared about it so much. Sigh. I try to keep that in mind with my Keeping Score, but it hard.Cagey (Kelli Oliver George)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13691589813815058981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54691127437779580142009-03-14T12:01:00.000-07:002009-03-14T12:01:00.000-07:00Hm. Okay, I'll admit I do a little competing with ...Hm. Okay, I'll admit I do a little competing with the hubby. Just last night, I scoffed at him because he was adding butter and salt to microwave buttered popcorn he made for Kyle and his friends. I was like, "What are you doing?!!!" He said, "Kids dig this." I told him he was crazy. GUess what?! Damned kids made a fool out of me.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-37928038669876203912009-03-14T10:35:00.000-07:002009-03-14T10:35:00.000-07:00Heh. You and I have the same fantasy that involve...Heh. You and I have the same fantasy that involves sitting around all day and eating cookies. <BR/><BR/>Too bad neither of us really gets to do that. ;)<BR/><BR/>We all have a bitter inner monologue at times. We're human!Schmoopiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907884170679447978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-64334292763194345602009-03-14T09:53:00.000-07:002009-03-14T09:53:00.000-07:00I have those "ouch I am my Mom" moments at times t...I have those "ouch I am my Mom" moments at times too... especially when I feel the kids are not meeting some weird "need of the moment". But life is just one big freaking learn from our errors lesson isn't it? Um... try after you have cleaned the glass doors and stall to polish with something like Pledge... it helps in between squeegie sessoins!Cheesyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02099545260198846488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-69745622172164073902009-03-14T08:23:00.000-07:002009-03-14T08:23:00.000-07:00I agree with Bob and Fiwa, also, I think of it les...I agree with Bob and Fiwa, also, I think of it less as scorekeeping and more of a highly defined sense of fairness. (But I guess I still keep score by declaring myself <I>more</I> fair)Mignonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07716330276288396317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-20591748345464858542009-03-14T08:19:00.000-07:002009-03-14T08:19:00.000-07:00I do that too and you're right, it's a waste of ti...I do that too and you're right, it's a waste of time and energy. Why we do it, I have no idea and how to quit, god only knows.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com