tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post7499991280120773837..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Tantrummenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88358231526084193102008-06-19T13:51:00.000-07:002008-06-19T13:51:00.000-07:00Umm, you seem very mild mannered to me. This post...Umm, you seem very mild mannered to me. This post speaks volumes about your courage and desire to break the habit.eganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03783658744477659987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-69328730547875087942008-06-19T00:28:00.000-07:002008-06-19T00:28:00.000-07:00Stop and think about what a memory that leaves ins...Stop and think about what a memory that leaves inside your childrens little brains. And what you acting that way speaks to them of. That's what finally stopped my "spells". I learned to get-it-out in private. TessaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-77185081453519973832008-06-18T18:21:00.000-07:002008-06-18T18:21:00.000-07:00Wow, lots of great comments. I don't have anything...Wow, lots of great comments. I don't have anything new to add but I wanted to reiterate:<BR/><BR/>1) be kind to yourself, no one is perfect, we all have flaws.<BR/>2) we do save our best behavior for those we love and I firmly believe it's because we're comfortable and loved.<BR/>3) Self-awareness is good. <BR/><BR/>I love that you're flawed yet self aware. You are so real.ETKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07079117807919253379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-55583096967834789362008-06-18T17:10:00.000-07:002008-06-18T17:10:00.000-07:00Any communication is good communication. Not being...Any communication is good communication. Not being heard (or even thinking that you are not being heard) is terrible. You do have a voice, and it's very ok to use it. Sometimes it may just blurt out at 2 am, othertimes you can actually talk. <BR/><BR/>Here in our house it goes like this; I'd rather be blasted at ( or blast off at) than risk not being heard. Every single time, for either of us. I can surely deliver the heat, and ya' know, I can take it too. If you don't want blasts, well then, let's just talk more often. <BR/><BR/>Good on ya', apologies are nice but they shouldn't be necessary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-58769107659087826002008-06-18T08:25:00.000-07:002008-06-18T08:25:00.000-07:00I know how you fell, I really do. And, months with...I know how you fell, I really do. And, months without exploding, congratulations.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand I'm learning how to keep my calm too. If we can do it for other people we should be able to do it for our family too.<BR/><BR/>I gave my husband a book about anger by Thich Nat Hanh. He says that it's good but I have yet to read it myself.Susannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14220769941216066968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-71643945296310163092008-06-17T09:42:00.000-07:002008-06-17T09:42:00.000-07:00Six, eight, ten months later...you're not doing SO...Six, eight, ten months later...you're not doing SO badly, really!Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-27734449157794330772008-06-17T05:37:00.000-07:002008-06-17T05:37:00.000-07:00I'm a "bottler"...I bottle up feelings until they ...I'm a "bottler"...I bottle up feelings until they explode. It's not pretty, and I feel crappy. But then again...letting off steam every day seems sort of pointless too, like little farts of my unhappiness.Mona Buonanottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809435868294190789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-86506295672165099252008-06-16T17:45:00.000-07:002008-06-16T17:45:00.000-07:00I'm not going to read these comments because if I ...I'm not going to read these comments because if I find out this is not normal behavior, I'll be depressed for months.<BR/><BR/>I do this same cycle all the time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-34072190117350411992008-06-16T08:08:00.000-07:002008-06-16T08:08:00.000-07:00you are not alone. I think we behave the worst wi...you are not alone. I think we behave the worst with the ones we love and feel secure with.Say Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09641932389807026317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88317687231529009572008-06-15T17:57:00.000-07:002008-06-15T17:57:00.000-07:00I have a temper, too. Usually I can control it. ...I have a temper, too. Usually I can control it. I am always sorry when I can't.<BR/><BR/>Btw, I've read all your posts. I am just low on energy and time to comment right now, but I relate to your new stage of life, empty nest, wherever it is, and ovaries with ADD.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Everything will be all right. Really.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-67010319245198792882008-06-15T11:10:00.000-07:002008-06-15T11:10:00.000-07:00I used to do that too...I'd bottle everything up a...I used to do that too...I'd bottle everything up and then one day...sometimes out of the blue...BAM!!! The roof gets blown off...<BR/>I don't bottle things as much and it's almost gone now a days. I just couldn't keep having battles with myself...it was cpunterproductive. <BR/>Of Course , the hysterectomy helped a bit too I think ;) loltthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157492410943794052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-47651078760553905402008-06-15T10:08:00.000-07:002008-06-15T10:08:00.000-07:00I have fits here and there as well. I wonder when...I have fits here and there as well. I wonder when I will grow up.sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-82290094845750420292008-06-15T06:09:00.000-07:002008-06-15T06:09:00.000-07:00*cyber hugging you*there's nothing I can say that ...*cyber hugging you*<BR/><BR/>there's nothing I can say that hasn't been said, except of course to say that everyone has qualities that they feel bad about, you're not alone; although that doesn't really make it feel better...<BR/><BR/>just know that you're loved by lots of peopleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21903868367576485762008-06-15T04:16:00.000-07:002008-06-15T04:16:00.000-07:00It's okay to feel anger and angry.It took me a whi...It's okay to feel anger and angry.<BR/><BR/>It took me a while to learn that I am just human and feel all kinds of emotions and anger is one of them.<BR/><BR/>Also it it took me some time to realise I needed to work on how I express(ed) my anger/frustration.<BR/><BR/>It was never at the kids, never at work, or day to day stuff, only at my partner, it can sort of eventuate from how emotions/anger was dealt with in you own family growing up, how you relate to your partner, relationship issues, so many things....but it is also something I had to deal with and take responsibility for because it was wrecking my life, health and affecting everyone..<BR/><BR/>I have come a long way, I've got you something:<BR/><BR/>http://edition.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/MH/00073.html<BR/><BR/>and...especially:<BR/><BR/>http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/anger-management/MH00075<BR/><BR/>http://www.psychology.org.au/publications/tip_sheets/anger/<BR/><BR/>That'll take you to some good reading and links, you aren't a monster Meno, there is no manual for each person on their life and sometimes we learn stuff/cope that we kinda should unlearn or get help for...we can be the hardest taskmasters on ourselves, and often there is an answer and help available..<BR/><BR/>I got help because I deserve better and my family deserves better. <BR/><BR/>It is the most wonderful feeling to be able to recognise what's going on and expressing whatever it is that's building up..it's one of the best things I have ever done.<BR/><BR/>Hugs to you!<BR/><BR/>PamSiennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15387267690900119245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-605812629618638892008-06-14T20:17:00.000-07:002008-06-14T20:17:00.000-07:00Maybe you're like a dog, and if you'd just get eno...Maybe you're like a dog, and if you'd just get enough exercise, you wouldn't be chewing any shoes, or jumping on people, (or biting). What do you think?<BR/><BR/>(I hope this made you laugh.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-80471602508246851112008-06-14T18:22:00.000-07:002008-06-14T18:22:00.000-07:00My husband and my 16DD both do this too. I don't k...My husband and my 16DD both do this too. I don't know if its a nature/nurture thing but his Mom and Grandma are that way too. As a laid back, quiet-anger person it just gets my goat! I find that it is worse with them when they are stressed. Meditation, as someone suggested, may be the key?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-68606879643044004602008-06-14T12:39:00.000-07:002008-06-14T12:39:00.000-07:00I have a father who does this. As a result I laug...I have a father who does this. As a result I laugh when people have extreme emotions. This does not go over well with anyone. I'm such a bitch.Bobealia...https://www.blogger.com/profile/15713026993668872520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-83212222734163896152008-06-14T05:25:00.000-07:002008-06-14T05:25:00.000-07:00Darlin', to have it happen so very rarely is a tre...Darlin', to have it happen so very rarely is a treat unto itself. We live in a very tough world, where change comes at us a mile a minute, where pressure is nearly constant and tomorrow seems to hold more of the same, only with gas a few cents more expensive and one more worry about poison fruits or someone being killed by a crazy man with dynamite tied to his chest.<BR/><BR/>Be thankful it's so rare, and we'll be thankful to you that you come back to us after it's over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-66415629336087676362008-06-13T22:45:00.000-07:002008-06-13T22:45:00.000-07:00I'm with Patches. I think things get so built up ...I'm with Patches. I think things get so built up over time then they have to escape somehow. I also think awareness is the first step towards change.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14149777435132497067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-21123692418642448472008-06-13T21:07:00.000-07:002008-06-13T21:07:00.000-07:00But you come back down to earth afterwards, and yo...But you come back down to earth afterwards, and you apologize, and you try not to do it again. that's worth A LOT, meno. *hug*Nancy Dancehallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14169976337329559458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-5966924149341696192008-06-13T19:36:00.000-07:002008-06-13T19:36:00.000-07:00The pressure builds up then the top explodes. It w...The pressure builds up then the top explodes. It would be less painful for those you love, if you would learn to let the pressure escape less violently. You can do it.luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-20557419434741959072008-06-13T19:12:00.000-07:002008-06-13T19:12:00.000-07:00Me too. And it really pisses me off. Is that iro...Me too. And it really pisses me off. Is that ironic?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-20162948556296255542008-06-13T15:14:00.000-07:002008-06-13T15:14:00.000-07:00me too. I do the same thing.me too. I do the same thing.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-74193240409921870852008-06-13T13:26:00.000-07:002008-06-13T13:26:00.000-07:00The temper part... sure. Whatever. A couple of tim...The temper part... sure. Whatever. A couple of times a year.... bleh...<BR/><BR/>The throwing things part. Unacceptable. Knock it off.Scott from Oregonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331284708780612453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-68992645532796670112008-06-13T13:11:00.000-07:002008-06-13T13:11:00.000-07:00Frankly I think its healthy to let it rip...I some...Frankly I think its healthy to let it rip...I sometimes have to go insane for a few minutes and i warn everyone whats coming and that its not thier fault and then...let it loose..100 Thoughts of Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04200599373915306830noreply@blogger.com