tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post8030339349782512182..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Own itmenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28058363978253165372007-05-09T13:24:00.000-07:002007-05-09T13:24:00.000-07:00Hmmm... I'm pretty sure that I've done something s...Hmmm... I'm pretty sure that I've done something similar. Does it matter that he actually said the negative thing? Probably not - it's a way for me to slam something or someone without taking the heat I guess.<BR/><BR/>I'll have to think on this one, thanks Meno.Jhiannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13961562933937294762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-82089825904933163032007-05-07T12:45:00.000-07:002007-05-07T12:45:00.000-07:00When I was a preteen I used to tell my Mom, "So-an...When I was a preteen I used to tell my Mom, "So-and-so would like me to go to the movies." That way if she said no, it didn't reflect badly on me. "No biggie. I didn't really want to go anyway. It was so-and-so's idea." I don't know why I did it. Maybe I just needed to develop my balls... er, tits. I guess some people never develop them.Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-91055363438755897492007-05-06T14:23:00.000-07:002007-05-06T14:23:00.000-07:00chili pepper, i don't see it as bas either. i do ...chili pepper, i don't see it as bas either. i do see passing off your feelings as someone else's as bad though. Good point about the kids.<BR/><BR/>hearts, yeah, i got that part covered!<BR/><BR/>lu, i'm only guessing here, but women are supposed to be nice and sweet. Anger doesn't fit into that image. If your ex's friends have any brains (which they may not) they should know that what he tells them is skewed.<BR/><BR/>mal, ha ha ha! I sure hope so, but i sure doubt it.<BR/><BR/>pendullum, okay, you win, although i do know a woman like that. Drives me bananas.<BR/><BR/>gewels, i ain't asking and i don't want to know. Actually, he seems like a perfectly reasonable man.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-19420648789054141102007-05-06T07:20:00.000-07:002007-05-06T07:20:00.000-07:00Maybe that's all her husband is good for. Hmm, did...Maybe that's all her husband is good for. Hmm, did you ever think of that?<BR/>No, seriously, you feel what you feel so own up to it. Makes life MUCH easier in the longrun.GEWELShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667187693235282985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-81509590304108012482007-05-06T06:57:00.000-07:002007-05-06T06:57:00.000-07:00I can one up you here...My SIL only uses her sons ...I can one up you here...<BR/>My SIL only uses her sons opinion for everything... from the age of three on... The kid is now seventeen... and all 'opinions' expressed are his...<BR/>Bloody frustrating at best...Pendullumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11833881250780345533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-24287815718199187992007-05-05T22:24:00.000-07:002007-05-05T22:24:00.000-07:00When this woman is walking with her husband across...When this woman is walking with her husband across a college campus in june, does she turn to him and say, "Wow, these coeds have big boobs?"Malnurtured Snayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03506933474730575045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-77117517141082834062007-05-05T21:14:00.000-07:002007-05-05T21:14:00.000-07:00It is weird to use someone else's voice to make a ...It is weird to use someone else's voice to make a hostile point. Why would she want her husband to look like the mean one? <BR/><BR/>My ex must have done this a lot, because he tells me his friends, with whom I've never spent time, think I'm a bitch. I suppose it's a way to get exponential hostile points.luhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486545199810361580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-80062636272494070792007-05-05T20:52:00.000-07:002007-05-05T20:52:00.000-07:00You're so right. I can be hostile my own damn sel...You're so right. I can be hostile my own damn self, too.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-33742575793384299622007-05-05T20:34:00.000-07:002007-05-05T20:34:00.000-07:00I do not see responsibility as bad. I think is is...I do not see responsibility as bad. I think is is a positive; responsibility is a human trait or act. Treat others as you wish to be treated - this is our responsibility - regardless of age. Talk to the people (woman or man), deal with it directly. Be what you want them to be - set the bar!<BR/><BR/>and, by no means do I think it is easy - yet (not but) It is important for kids to see us live our examples vs hear our "wise" words.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-24387953995146658612007-05-05T20:26:00.000-07:002007-05-05T20:26:00.000-07:00lee. yeah, your dog called me this morning to tell...lee. yeah, your dog called me this morning to tell me that. :)menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-51370075887616422672007-05-05T15:54:00.000-07:002007-05-05T15:54:00.000-07:00I blame everything on my dog Bistro."You know, Bis...I blame everything on my dog Bistro.<BR/><BR/>"You know, Bistro thinks you're a jerk."Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14915252268400469774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-80974620220248996472007-05-05T15:05:00.000-07:002007-05-05T15:05:00.000-07:00ac, it's so much easier to blame the one not prese...ac, it's so much easier to blame the one not present. Poor man must be going insane.<BR/><BR/>moi, maybe he doesn't want his sweet wifey getting angry either. Who knows. Innie! :)<BR/><BR/>jen, it is common. And i will be on the lookout for it too, and ask uncomfortable questions. HA!<BR/><BR/>em, i sometimes need to have a little <I>more </I> trouble when expressing my feelings!<BR/><BR/>de, don't ever leave us again, ok? Great story about your mom. Perfect illustration. That mean old Uncle Dave!<BR/><BR/>ortizzle, i would have been pissed at the other mom, and i know she must have been too. ADMIT IT!<BR/><BR/>toni, heh heh heh. Good one. You're funny.<BR/><BR/>sari, yes we are, but hopefully we get over that crap. You ask good questions, i wish i knew the answers.<BR/><BR/>lazy, i think your arcane comment is referring to the colors? If so, thanks, if not, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-31847709959809694822007-05-05T14:42:00.000-07:002007-05-05T14:42:00.000-07:00"fruity little number" ?Nice."fruity little number" ?<BR/><BR/>Nice.LazyLazyMehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18400766359447569742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-76791428835338416902007-05-05T11:45:00.000-07:002007-05-05T11:45:00.000-07:00I think we're brought up to not have opinions or r...I think we're brought up to not have opinions or rock the boat.<BR/><BR/>It's nice when someone can just say how they feel about something. I mean, what's the big deal in her situation, the woman wasn't there, she didn't need her husband to say anything for her. She could have just expressed her opinion and been done.<BR/><BR/>Interesting!sarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144333694009700155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-91132926665903735572007-05-05T11:13:00.000-07:002007-05-05T11:13:00.000-07:00My husband said he agrees!My husband said he agrees!Special K ~Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08703215582334772134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-19672465386715842402007-05-05T11:11:00.000-07:002007-05-05T11:11:00.000-07:00Yeah, I think you nailed it on this one. If the wo...Yeah, I think you nailed it on this one. If the woman were sincerely forgiving and not holding a grudge of any sort, why would she even mention her husband's reaction? That would have to cause her embarrassment... unless of course her purpose was to rip off her husband, which doesn't appear to be the case. <BR/><BR/>Shrewd observation, Meno.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-85146429146363583102007-05-05T11:05:00.000-07:002007-05-05T11:05:00.000-07:00Throughout my childhood, I thought it was my dad w...Throughout my childhood, I thought it was my dad who couldn't stand chewing sounds, but I am now convinced it was my mother, blaming him.<BR/><BR/>I needed smelling salts last week at dinner after Fiona, who spent the afternoon at her house, announced "Uncle Dave doesn't like any kind of mouth noises when people are eating." My mother doesn't want her to be afraid of Grandpa, so Uncle Dave has graduated to the heavy. What's the matter with just explaining good table manners? <BR/><BR/>Recently, Lorenzo has been having tantrums if I put him in bed for his nap or at night. As in, he'll scream for over an hour if I let him go. But if Tony is home, he happily says, "Daddy is tuckin' me in." One day at nap time, I resorted to, "Daddy wants you to go to sleep now." And I was rewarded for my behavior! But just that one day. Back to my own desperate devices.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-87684047459299507322007-05-05T08:51:00.000-07:002007-05-05T08:51:00.000-07:00Very interesting observation. And I think you are ...Very interesting observation. And I think you are right. People do often hide behind spouses/bosses/co-workers/others as a way of expressing their own feelings. Thank goodness you don't need to do that. Neither do I. I have no problem saying what needs to be said.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14063254538593495040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-14286613679745674182007-05-05T08:31:00.000-07:002007-05-05T08:31:00.000-07:00it's a common thing, isn't it. women are taught n...it's a common thing, isn't it. women are taught not to express anger. it's ingrained, isn't it.<BR/><BR/>and such a cop out. we are better than our conditioning.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-86515896225909723792007-05-05T05:47:00.000-07:002007-05-05T05:47:00.000-07:00I wonder what her husband would think of her often...I wonder what her husband would think of her often doing this or maybe he doesn't know. Don't think I'd ever do that and she couldn't fget away with that in our small town, it'd get back to him pronto. Yes, own your own crap proudly!<BR/><BR/>Yep, navel gazing counts..especially if you took out the lint! Innie or outie?!! Touching my navel gives me the heebies..it's just too sensitive...weird eh?Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-32799455738640979932007-05-05T05:17:00.000-07:002007-05-05T05:17:00.000-07:00I've got to tell this story to my husband!!!!YukYu...I've got to tell this story to my husband!!!!<BR/><BR/>YukYuk. His clients who are driving him crazy with their house remodel, use this tactic all the time. Particularly when one of them makes a change order,<BR/><BR/>"So-and-So thinks the window should be over two inches. I think its all right but he/she doesn't so I guess you need to change it..." So-and-So is very concerned that 17 television outlets are not enough. I don't think we need any more but he/she does so I guess you need to change it..."<BR/><BR/>You're description, when I was searching for an apt one, of the Sweet 16 party blow out-idiocy was spot on.<BR/><BR/>By the way, my hiatus is over (one day, I'm addicted, I admit it) and I've tagged you with the ABC's meme (see my latest post for format) I hope its something you'll enjoy.AChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02949724388906286696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28962589449486413102007-05-04T20:02:00.000-07:002007-05-04T20:02:00.000-07:00nancy, i wouldn't appreciate it either. But mrs.c...nancy, i wouldn't appreciate it either. But mrs.chili's thing is okay with me. I've done it.<BR/><BR/>chani, exactly. My crap is mine dammit!<BR/><BR/>qt, i know, i have that issue too. :)<BR/><BR/>patches, i am big on not offering opinions unless asked. Except here of course.<BR/><BR/>maggie, we try for that team thing too. Sometimes we even achieve it. Thanks for your vote!<BR/><BR/>lynn, interesting question. I'll have to ask her. NOT!<BR/><BR/>gary, cats are good for that.<BR/><BR/>mrs.chili, i too am happy to be the "mean parent". i don't care. use me baby!<BR/><BR/>joan, i am just fine with being that nasty person. It's true.<BR/><BR/>stucco, so sorry. next time i'm blaming you!<BR/><BR/>liv, you are so MEAN! I hear that all the time from mine. Ask daddy if you want a yes. :)menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-12854810226538210872007-05-04T19:25:00.000-07:002007-05-04T19:25:00.000-07:00Which is sort of the opposite of how the smack fel...Which is sort of the opposite of how the smack fell in my house for years....don't you even go pissing off that crazy liv. call her kind, lower blood pressured husband if there's bad news...Livhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154719979114564561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-27413901652518412562007-05-04T19:19:00.000-07:002007-05-04T19:19:00.000-07:00Most of us fellas have so few assigned roles- it's...Most of us fellas have so few assigned roles- it's a shame o see you putting another man out of work :)Stuccohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11486166896422212439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13413779195069773992007-05-04T19:00:00.000-07:002007-05-04T19:00:00.000-07:00I absolutely agree that everyone should take respo...I absolutely agree that everyone should take responsibility for everything in their lives...including their own emotions. Why should the image of a spouse be tainted simply because a woman doesn't want to be branded as a nasty person? Geez...Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05589769742639537861noreply@blogger.com