tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post3771168486336322601..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Moneymenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-61878020992294489412007-09-24T13:50:00.000-07:002007-09-24T13:50:00.000-07:00I think you should wear it.I think you should wear it.Sonia Wetzel Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05075315979465608558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-76141202726156259702007-09-12T19:55:00.000-07:002007-09-12T19:55:00.000-07:00I think it is OK to have a thing, a ridiculous thi...I think it is OK to have a thing, a ridiculous thing in your life. <BR/><BR/>Everyone has one. And you are lucky to be able to afford it.<BR/><BR/>Rest easy on it and enjoy its prettiness.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88924946282695967512007-09-11T22:24:00.000-07:002007-09-11T22:24:00.000-07:00Wow, that really is a tough one. I love that you ...Wow, that really is a tough one. I love that you have thought out all the scenarios in your head and shared them. I'm really torn on this one.eganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03783658744477659987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-32825805072160762007-09-11T19:01:00.000-07:002007-09-11T19:01:00.000-07:00Eh, money is only money. And jewelry is only jewe...Eh, money is only money. And jewelry is only jewelry. If the money just sat in the bank, it would be the same as the jewelry sitting in a drawer. Take what joy you can get, whether it be in a beautiful earth-hewn stone or a flower. The joy is the same.Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14915252268400469774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-53683283980708420912007-09-10T23:24:00.000-07:002007-09-10T23:24:00.000-07:00I was going to suggest that you sell it and use th...I was going to suggest that you sell it and use the money to help all those people, but maybe you should save it for Em. It could be her nest egg, and that would be a wonderful use for it.<BR/><BR/>Still, you didn't hurt anyone to buy it. Your family was not deprived of any necessities. Not having to worry about money is a great blessing. You must be deserving of it, so you have no reason to feel guilty. If you love it, enjoy wearing it.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-49091912520383350122007-09-10T19:10:00.000-07:002007-09-10T19:10:00.000-07:00de, The lesson, for me, is to buy silly things, bu...de, The lesson, for me, is to buy silly things, but not spend what i now consider to be an immoral amount of money on them. Silly is essential, but wretched excess is not.<BR/><BR/>scott, i will take comfort in that thought, about the jeweler's daughter.<BR/><BR/>cagey, the nice jewelry that i have, i wear all the time. To bed, in the swimming pool, cleaning cat cages.... I don't have a lot of it, but what i have, i wear.<BR/><BR/>luckyzmom, good point! Who indeed?<BR/><BR/>amusing, you are quite the thoughtful person. Perfect.<BR/><BR/>deb, it has saved us from much resentment, the equal amount thing. If you want the details of how it works, send me an e-mail.<BR/><BR/>dick, appropriate and i are not too well aquainted. :) But you are right.<BR/><BR/>maggie, i don't know if i LIKE them, but i do seem to find them. Heh heh, that cat's collar. Tee hee. I like it.<BR/><BR/>sally, no, that is not it. It's really fairly inconspicuous, believe it or not. You have excellent advice, and you are most surely not a windbag.<BR/><BR/>liv, when i do wear it, i wear it everywhere. Sexin' a neutered cat? Hope you don't get any hair in yer teeth.<BR/><BR/>stucco, no, i wouldn't do it again. And your suggestion is quite a lovely one. i will keep it in mind.<BR/><BR/>qt, i am lucky. and i work hard. and i'm lucky.<BR/><BR/>schmoopie, i suppose you are right. I mean of course i have the right to do what i want with my money, but such selfishness is not how i wish to see myself. But it is a part of me, and this thing makes me see it. It's a good reminder.<BR/><BR/>moi, hell YES it looks good on me! :)<BR/><BR/>airam, you make a good point. You so smart!<BR/><BR/>ms. chica, top up, top UP! yes, you hit on the head. It's about seeing who i was then, and not liking the view.<BR/><BR/>d-man, you are so fucking kind that i want to weep.<BR/><BR/>bob, yep. Some of the largesse is earned, and some of it really is luck. We would not have had the luck without the work. You have a great way of getting to the correct analysis. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>emi, i cannot help you, i wish i could. I guess you have to ask if this purchase will supplant the purchase of something else that is necessary for you or your family. If not, do what you will. And thank you for clearing up what you were referring to. I was puzzled.<BR/><BR/>peevish, i will do that, if i can't enjoy it.<BR/><BR/>mcewen, "a long time dead" that's a good thing to remember. Smart dad.<BR/><BR/>princess, you are a wise princess. You will rule Norway well.<BR/><BR/>wng, you are right. i do think it's pretty. So, for now, i will keep it.<BR/><BR/>melanie, it is pretty, and fairly understated. <BR/><BR/>marsha, you are sweet, thank you.<BR/><BR/>pam, there's not much i want for myself anymore. I have a plentitude. And i REALLY don't want a horse. But i really understand what you are saying.<BR/><BR/>tink, a down comforter? In Florida? You know, i LOVE good bedding. i don't know if i could have resisted either.<BR/><BR/>otj, why, thank you for that. I feel heard, and that i what we all like to feel.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-75946085212004971262007-09-10T17:48:00.000-07:002007-09-10T17:48:00.000-07:00I so understand this. I don't have the answer, bu...I so understand this. I don't have the answer, but I totally appreciate the sentiment.OhTheJoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05031731198115388411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-58709470843314159252007-09-10T17:42:00.000-07:002007-09-10T17:42:00.000-07:00How can I decide if you don't post a picture? We a...How can I decide if you don't post a picture? We all buy silly things at least once in our lives. I once bought an expensive down comforter. The damn thing cost a fortune. Do you know how many times I used it? Twice. I live in FLORIDA. I nearly sweat to death sleeping on top of it.Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-75527234617729293672007-09-10T17:32:00.000-07:002007-09-10T17:32:00.000-07:00When I see something I like, or think is really pr...When I see something I like, or think is really pretty Meno, it inspires me to achieve it for myself...<BR/><BR/>Some people have the most beautiful horseflesh that has ever been bred and I look at that and say ...well I am determined to achieve such good work, not always necessarily the most $$$ train of genetics, but learning and achieving..<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I see beautiful jewellrey and think yeah!, top stuff, good on them and waaaay nice taste they have, I aspire to get me one of those....that's a good thing, my opinion...<BR/><BR/>My motivation isn't a mines bigger/better than yours, it is...oh what a thing of beauty (remembering it could be a photo, an animal, an act, a piece of jewellrey, a pavlova)! Appreciation of the creation of the object? and a desire for me to create/build/breed the best that I can do too...<BR/><BR/>I love that some people have adorable stuff (each a personal thing-beauty in the eye of the beholder of course)...but stuff and things that I might aspire too, dreams, aspirations and what people perceive to be beautiful to them is good, it creats good feelings in people....I hope you take all the good feelings associated with whatever it is that you wear and wear with pride; you to me, are an amazing person...you always sound like you care so much about everything and people....if it knocks your socks off Meno go for it!!<BR/><BR/>PamSiennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15387267690900119245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13190123658782107992007-09-10T16:08:00.000-07:002007-09-10T16:08:00.000-07:00Whatever you decide I think you are a nice person,...Whatever you decide I think you are a nice person, either way.Marshamlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00604324969370405697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-75334440714928425942007-09-10T11:32:00.000-07:002007-09-10T11:32:00.000-07:00Okay, i didn't read all the comments. they look pr...Okay, i didn't read all the comments. they look pretty lengthy. My only advice is, look at this thing, without all the stigma, and associations. How does it make you feel? I mean its pretty. I love pretty. Don't let the other stuff overshadow the pretty. <BR/><BR/>and if its bothering you that much, look at it as a college fund for one of the offspring. Enjoy it while you can, then sell it to the next person who wants to look at the "precious". <BR/><BR/>nuff preachin.Mermaid Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02726231529791645694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-19994825640667235302007-09-10T11:04:00.000-07:002007-09-10T11:04:00.000-07:00As I'm sure everyone else has already said you are...As I'm sure everyone else has already said you are NOT the conspicuous consumption poster girl and there is NO REASON for you to feel guilty. It is your money to do with as your please. If you really want to get rid of the 'thing' you can donate it to a charity to auction off. But I think that as long as you enjoy the 'things' beauty your money was not wasted.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900726730265994177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-74492848019688854652007-09-10T10:10:00.000-07:002007-09-10T10:10:00.000-07:00Princess, once I re-read my quickly worded post, I...Princess, once I re-read my quickly worded post, I saw how vague that could sound. I'm talking about a boob job! :) See, it's a luxury item, and could cost as much as Diddy's earrings when you factor in the new wardrobe. It's displayed, and like Meno, there may be times when I wish I could put it in a drawer for a while (especially when I go running). Hope that clears it up...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54219529364452695322007-09-10T08:30:00.000-07:002007-09-10T08:30:00.000-07:00Um, what does Emi mean by "jewelry I'll have impla...Um, what does Emi mean by "jewelry I'll have implanted in my chest"???<BR/><BR/>Does that sound like a Swarovski encrusted PaceMaker to anyone else??? Please elaborate, Emi.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, Meno, maybe you wouldn't make such an indulgent purchase, now. But it was a one time deal. Enjoy a little bit of frivolity. Life's too short to dwell on our puritanical tendancies and guilt. Enjoy a little bit of luxury, and maybe put in a little extra time at the animal shelter, or something, if you feel you must do something to assuage the guilt. But it's o.k. to feel a little decandent, from time to time. <BR/><BR/>Of course, this advice comes from someone who NAMED herself Princess. So, you know, grain of salt, and all that.)Princess in Galosheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08815709655445815674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-68294323437863205192007-09-10T07:57:00.000-07:002007-09-10T07:57:00.000-07:00If you have savings as well, that doesn't sound to...If you have savings as well, that doesn't sound too bad. Maybe it's a bit like the 'best china.' Some people keep it for best, worry when it's used and don't really enjoy it. Others use it every day. It doesn't seem like a bad way to go, or as my Dad would say 'you're a long time dead.'<BR/>Best wishesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-16383925643995879792007-09-10T07:14:00.000-07:002007-09-10T07:14:00.000-07:00Don't keep it if it makes you feel bad. Life is to...Don't keep it if it makes you feel bad. Life is too short for that. Like Jen said, sell it and do something with the proceeds which would make you feel good.peevishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14135920853307511091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-13873064145362966452007-09-10T06:32:00.000-07:002007-09-10T06:32:00.000-07:00I'm in the process of making my own decision about...I'm in the process of making my own decision about a very expensive luxury purchase of my own. Your words, and the comments of others, are helping me! Only, it's not a piece of jewelry I can take off ... it's jewelry I'll have implanted in my chest. It will make me happy - I've spent years thinking it thru - and the hubby spends much more on guitars, so that's justified. But oh, the guilt, with two kids to finance. I was just wondering the day before you posted this... Will I regret it, much like you've regretted your jewelry? And will I blog about it several years from now, trying to find a way to UNregret it? Possibly. Oh, HELP!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-75933672945862033362007-09-10T06:26:00.000-07:002007-09-10T06:26:00.000-07:00sounds to me like middle-class guilt complex. you...sounds to me like middle-class guilt complex. you're embarrassed by it, this bit of conspicuous consumption?<BR/><BR/>I have a question or two. Do you feel like you earned the largess that came your way? I expect you do. You are retired. Do you feel guilty for not working any more when you are obviously of good health and still have the ability to be productive? I expect not, you earned your living and have done your share of producing. You live in a nice home on a lake. Do you feel guilty for having it when others live in shelters or have no home at all? I expect not, you earned the ability to have it. What I'm driving at is that you are someone who is well off, but are only embarrassed by it when it is conspicuously on display? The fact that you choose to leave your matching funds in savings doesn't preclude the fact that you could afford more baubles. middle-class guilt of having when others don't.<BR/><BR/>bottom line - if you like the jewelry, keep it and wear it without guilt - you earned the money used to purchase it - just as you did the money for your house and lifestyle. If you cannot get over the concentrated wealth it represents, get rid of it no matter the reduced resale value and then donate the money where you feel you should've in the first place.<BR/><BR/>it is a bizarre dichotomy that our society teaches us to work hard to make money and simultaneously our puritanical background teaches us that excessive wealth is inherently bad. you can bet the rockefellers and gettys and bushs of the world have resolved it.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28960064547409424162007-09-10T03:53:00.000-07:002007-09-10T03:53:00.000-07:00If you decide you don't want this expensive item, ...If you decide you don't want this expensive item, give me your address and I'll happily put my ninja skills to use.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-17797735928485614872007-09-09T21:26:00.000-07:002007-09-09T21:26:00.000-07:00Tell Liv to make sure she puts the top down. Patch...Tell Liv to make sure she puts the top down. Patches doesn’t need any more tickets for public nudity.<BR/><BR/>Only you can decide what your comfort level is. You can donate jewelry or pass it down to Em, but it sounds like this isn’t just about the jewelry, but about the person you were then and the person you are now. This is part of the beauty of maturing. We learn things about ourselves, and we recognize change in ourselves. Being introspective (‘cause I know you are) can make us more aware the changes we go through (values, priorities, etc.). Accepting the difference between who we were versus who we are isn’t always easy.ms chicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11281861496244331321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88057802821118917522007-09-09T20:46:00.000-07:002007-09-09T20:46:00.000-07:00I felt guilty after having purchased my first expe...I felt guilty after having purchased my first expensive gift for myself. But I figure that I help people anyway and do things for others all the time so why not indulge a little for myself? Don't regret it. Wear it and be happy you have it. If you feel that bad then don't get a piece of jewelery. Definitely wear it ... and if it's that expensive then I say you wear it often! That's what made me feel a bit better about buying my gift ... the fact that I'd wear it out. And if it makes you feel better about it, maybe you can turn it into an heirloom to be passed down from generation to generation??Airamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06193964394693579433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-46546247478813985232007-09-09T20:31:00.000-07:002007-09-09T20:31:00.000-07:00If you still love it, and it looks good on you, an...If you still love it, and it looks good on you, and it's no silier than a fancy car, then wear it. If it still makes you feel stupid and lousy for buying it, then I guess I wouldn't wear it and I'd try to deal it somewhere for the money and do something with the money that makes you feel fabulous.Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-55219034165687359462007-09-09T20:02:00.000-07:002007-09-09T20:02:00.000-07:00I am not able to relate to ever feeling the desire...I am not able to relate to ever feeling the desire or happiness that would come from buying an expensive piece of jewelry because I don't like wearing jewelry or spending money on it. If it brought you happiness at one point, great! If it doesn't anymore, get rid of it. Do something fun with it with Em or give it away. <BR/><BR/>I also have never been "drunk with money" so who knows what I would do? I think people have a right to do what they want with their money.Schmoopiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10907884170679447978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-40305586461895368732007-09-09T19:54:00.000-07:002007-09-09T19:54:00.000-07:00I say wear it. You've earned it in many different ...I say wear it. You've earned it in many different ways. Don't feel guilty that you have been fortunate enough to buy something you enjoy. Feel lucky.QThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15544956727530046973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-50794446376667908902007-09-09T18:58:00.000-07:002007-09-09T18:58:00.000-07:00You won't likely do this sort of thing again I pre...You won't likely do this sort of thing again I presume? If so, then classify it as a lesson learned and let it be. If you can't get any enjoyment from the thing, give it away to a woman who's lost hair/breasts to cancer. It's tough for them to preserve a feminine identity when they go through that crap, and a "pretty" can make a difference. In that way, the thing can be priceless in a real way.Stuccohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11486166896422212439noreply@blogger.com