tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post7284012013731886347..comments2023-12-16T22:38:40.273-08:00Comments on .: Interview with a vampiremenohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-38605297101145034992007-10-12T18:59:00.000-07:002007-10-12T18:59:00.000-07:00hanni, i know it does, i know. One of the reasons...hanni, i know it does, i know. One of the reasons that i do talk about this, although it hurts me, is that i too want people to know that they are not alone. Because i sure felt all alone at the time. I think the shame made me quiet.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-17491220723923053352007-10-12T18:48:00.000-07:002007-10-12T18:48:00.000-07:00Thank you for being so honest. I hope to have some...Thank you for being so honest. I hope to have someone I love as much as Em some day, but thank god it's not now. My Mister sounds like he was cut from the same cloth as yours--maybe one day i'll blog about it so that others will know they're not alone. but for now it still stings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-41237752729858954682007-10-10T17:37:00.000-07:002007-10-10T17:37:00.000-07:00I have enjoyed this questions meme a lot. ;) It is...I have enjoyed this questions meme a lot. ;) It is great to get to know more about people. <BR/><BR/>We should do it more often, no? ;)<BR/><BR/>Cheers,<BR/>Snoskred<BR/><A HREF="http://www.snoskred.org/" REL="nofollow">www.snoskred.org</A>Snoskredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12670406702782244306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-83421872647671042382007-10-10T08:38:00.000-07:002007-10-10T08:38:00.000-07:00luckyzmom, forgiveness is not something that can b...luckyzmom, forgiveness is not something that can be done alone. Good for you for the beer! You have spirit. You are welcome.<BR/><BR/>moi, it was hard. (Understatement) And it left me open to more heartache and pain. I am lucky that it worked out.<BR/><BR/>pam, thank you! There are times when being stubborn had been a positive thing. Other times....not so much.<BR/><BR/>catherine, thank you for stopping by. I read your post. It was well written and interesting. <BR/><BR/>maddy, that's the truth, complex and emotional.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-54351199560663999542007-10-09T20:56:00.000-07:002007-10-09T20:56:00.000-07:00People, we're all so complex.Best wishesPeople, we're all so complex.<BR/>Best wishesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-84875022897541926912007-10-09T13:46:00.000-07:002007-10-09T13:46:00.000-07:00I love the interview meme - always so interesting!...I love the interview meme - always so interesting!<BR/><BR/>Speaking of Chani, I came here via your comment on her "Heaven or Reincarnation" post. The question and comments so fascinated me that I wrote a post about it. I'd love your feedback - you can find it <A HREF="http://catherinemcniel.blogspot.com/2007/10/too-vast-to-be-called-by-name.html" REL="nofollow">here</A><BR/><BR/>Nice to "meet" you. :)<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://catherinemcniel.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">catherine</A>Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07316677018586769316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-91853461881101587212007-10-09T03:26:00.000-07:002007-10-09T03:26:00.000-07:00Well I think you are pretty amazing Meno...and I'm...Well I think you are pretty amazing Meno...and I'm glad you are really stubborn.<BR/><BR/>PamSiennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15387267690900119245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-1698341941996862862007-10-08T18:19:00.000-07:002007-10-08T18:19:00.000-07:00You are pretty amazing that you chose to forgive y...You are pretty amazing that you chose to forgive your husband and really try to trust again after such pain. The majority have not done this so I think maybe some of them have missed out on a lot by not being like you. It may not have worked out but you gave it a fighting chance and taught your daughter that it's possible to forgive and trust again. And I'm glad it actually did work out.Mother of Inventionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797365678860039018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-73984595812027959442007-10-08T17:18:00.000-07:002007-10-08T17:18:00.000-07:00Wow! Your comment to chani's comment helped me und...Wow! Your comment to chani's comment helped me understand how your answers affected me...."a little scraped raw". Instantly right back there 35 years ago, listening to Wayne Newton sing "Daddy Don't You Walk So Fast", only our daughter was too young to understand that he was leaving us for another woman, an alcoholic like himself. I wasn't given the chance to forgive. I did toss a glass of beer in her face though! 30 years later he had the gall to blame me!! I wanted very much to find him walking alone on a dark road some night. <BR/><BR/>Anyway your answers moved me and I thank you for being willing to share.luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-41474232678151072152007-10-08T16:45:00.000-07:002007-10-08T16:45:00.000-07:00hearts, in the case of abuse, there is no other op...hearts, in the case of abuse, there is no other option. i would never advocate staying in that event. Never. You did what you needed to to protect your kids. Not everyone can leave, you are a hero.<BR/><BR/>ttq, wow, that was deep. I like it.<BR/><BR/>my pool, i am not sure if it's only in the case of my child that i was able to do this. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>tink, expect me to go back to shallow posts forthwith. :)menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-70201589297054135032007-10-08T14:05:00.000-07:002007-10-08T14:05:00.000-07:00Wow, Meno. That was really deep and insightful. No...Wow, Meno. That was really deep and insightful. Not that I didn't expect that out of you. Just that these types of interviews are usually, "What is your favorite food?" and "If you were a Disney character, what character would you be?" So bravo Chani, for the questions and to Meno for such honest and open answers.Tinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188363142469404823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-85964635140654286212007-10-08T12:39:00.000-07:002007-10-08T12:39:00.000-07:00your answers show how strong you are and how you a...your answers show how strong you are and how you are able to put others before you while still being yourself. Beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-11119760635269997572007-10-08T12:35:00.000-07:002007-10-08T12:35:00.000-07:00Your hiking replicates you. Sometimes you need hel...Your hiking replicates you. Sometimes you need help to get through the passes and it's there if you need it, but sometimes the ledge is only big enough for one. And you make it on your own. In the end it was all about the journey.TTQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09888187290526881563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-28095397618666364052007-10-08T12:26:00.000-07:002007-10-08T12:26:00.000-07:00These were truly mind-blowing answers to Chani's p...These were truly mind-blowing answers to Chani's probing questions. <BR/><BR/>I am in awe of you.<BR/><BR/>I have always learned more from pain than from pleasure, too. Maybe we all do because when everything is perfect, we have no need to delve deeply into ourselves and find out what's there.<BR/><BR/>I inflicted divorce on my children and have always regretted that they had to suffer for the crimes of others. In this case, though, they might not have physically survived Life with Father if I had stayed. <BR/><BR/>I admire you for being able to distinguish between the Mister's poor choices as husband and his parental abilities, and to put Em first.<BR/><BR/>Thank you both for a great and illuminating post.heartinsanfranciscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07535397382991383931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-88569477096157983962007-10-08T10:09:00.000-07:002007-10-08T10:09:00.000-07:00liv, i will have to disagree with you. I am not s...liv, i will have to disagree with you. I am not stronger than you, i was given the option of attempting to repair the damage, <I>you were not</I>. I was able to overcome my hurt and humiliation because the Mister was truly sorry and was wanting to fix what was wrong. It was hard.<BR/><BR/>holly, yeah, it does suck. I really thought i was above it all, too smart for that. Ha!<BR/><BR/>qt, i would not have sacrificed my whole life for her, but because of her i had to try and get through the shit. That we succeeded says something about both of us, not just me.<BR/><BR/>de, welcome to the club sweetie. Except i guess, that like me, you are a long term member.<BR/><BR/>mona, i have not even tried to apppreciate the laundry like you have. I just hate it. Actually, Em now does her own. YES!<BR/><BR/>wng, feeling more than you should. I share that charactaristic. I can't decide if it's a good thing or not. Probably a bit of both.<BR/><BR/>gary, scared you huh?<BR/><BR/>bob, yes, i know that feeling. Depression knows me too. Ugh.<BR/><BR/>mrs. chili, yes, it does. And i am both surprised and pleased with myself, and you, for having been able to accomplish it. <BR/><BR/>chani, see if i ever ask YOU to interview me again. I feel a little scraped raw, and a little unburdened too. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>deb, at the risk of further scaring gary, this was the first time in my life when i could understand the urge to kill.<BR/><BR/>u-u, i know you do the same with yours. I have great hopes for this generation of loved kids. <BR/><BR/>marsha, wow, what a sweet thing to say. I am blushing.<BR/><BR/>joan, compromise, hmmmm. I think of it more as fighting. And one of the people i had to fight was me.menohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18065283682414369608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-38249617591943701842007-10-08T09:31:00.000-07:002007-10-08T09:31:00.000-07:00I am in awe of your insightfulness and your abilit...I am in awe of your insightfulness and your ability to compromise for the sake of your daughter. You are truly a caring woman and a loving mom and I applaud you for your candor and honesty.Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05589769742639537861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-32103052702816443002007-10-08T08:37:00.000-07:002007-10-08T08:37:00.000-07:00I have to tell you that I have learned so much abo...I have to tell you that I have learned so much about the person I strive to be by reading your blog. It is hard for me to put into words, but I think you put it perfectly in #2. It isn't so much about changing other people to think like me it is about accepting others for who they are and accepting me for who I am, even if that is different. Thanks, keep on writing.Marshamlowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00604324969370405697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-58499696190631669072007-10-08T08:31:00.000-07:002007-10-08T08:31:00.000-07:00"It is very healing to be able to raise a child wi..."It is very healing to be able to raise a child with love."<BR/><BR/>Amen. That's so very true.<BR/><BR/>This was brilliant Meno- thanks for the insight into you...urban-urchinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18001320142893492171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-25003884431141400962007-10-08T08:23:00.000-07:002007-10-08T08:23:00.000-07:00It's shocking really, our capacity for hate. It s...It's shocking really, our capacity for hate. It seems to come from a place as deep as our ability to love. <BR/><BR/>and you're right, there's nothing better than the laugh of a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-87739586088362250122007-10-08T07:27:00.000-07:002007-10-08T07:27:00.000-07:00I love all these answers! And I too admire those w...I love all these answers! And I too admire those who know how to balance sacrifice. <BR/><BR/>I also understand the "I will live, even when I don't want to..." <BR/><BR/>These were awesome answers. Thank you. Even if I was a bit of a vampire. :)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Peace, <BR/><BR/>~Chani<BR/>http://thailandgal.blogspot.comthailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-1354139045095208502007-10-08T07:10:00.000-07:002007-10-08T07:10:00.000-07:00I agree with all of this, especially the answer ab...I agree with all of this, especially the answer about being able to raise a child with love. My daughters have been pivotal in my own healing process, and being able to raise them mindfully - and out of the cycle that had claimed my own family for untold generations. That alone makes it worth it.Mrs. Chilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09814787474739856911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-14062063073231708492007-10-08T06:46:00.000-07:002007-10-08T06:46:00.000-07:00"that i WILL live, even if i don’t want to"that re..."that i WILL live, even if i don’t want to"<BR/><BR/>that resonates with me as a life-long sufferer of depression. I feel the same - no matter how dark it is I will live.<BR/><BR/>maybe I'm a glutton for punishment?Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13690660290319444722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-86340620707207362382007-10-08T06:15:00.000-07:002007-10-08T06:15:00.000-07:00'the depth of hate i can feel and not commit murde...'the depth of hate i can feel and not commit murder'<BR/><BR/>whoa.gary rithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18228113061045717115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-5475548583705631662007-10-08T06:14:00.000-07:002007-10-08T06:14:00.000-07:00As always you make me think and feel more than I s...As always you make me think and feel more than I should from a short little post. You are special and I'm really glad you've made it this far.Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900726730265994177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30306964.post-86393570916779657042007-10-08T05:57:00.001-07:002007-10-08T05:57:00.001-07:00"less laundry, fewer hugs"...funny, nowadays when ..."less laundry, fewer hugs"...funny, nowadays when I do the laundry, stuffing the dirty soccer clothes and ice-cream-stained t-shirts and High School Musical crush-wear into the washer, I remind myself to savor the effort. 'Cause all too quickly, it'll be over. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your brutally honest answers. I learned a lot about you, and I love that.Mona Buonanottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809435868294190789noreply@blogger.com