Saturday, November 11, 2006

A wee bit o' ranting

rant the first- I didn't want to do this, but i am going to have to put word verification on my comments. I hate word verification because i suck at getting them right, but not as much as i hate the comment spam that i have been busy deleting.

What kind of sick people are behind comment spam? I think they are evil. And really, does anyone ever go to a site after a spam comment saying that they can make extra money? If they do they are as stupid as the spammers are evil.

I hate them all, i wish them ill.

rant the second- I don't require much from my friends, but i do need them to be reliable. You know, to be on time most days.

I have one friend who is always late. I play squash with her and every morning she is about 10 minutes late. I am an annoyingly punctual person, so i get to warm up by myself for the first 10 minutes. And she doesn't even bother to apologize anymore.

In January of this year, she made a resolution to be on time, and miracle of miracles, for two months she did it. Which proves that it's under her control. But she soon slipped back into her old ways.


I think that chronic lateness is arrogant and disrespectful.

Grrrrrr.

23 comments:

DDM said...

I too, get VERY frustrated by people being late and unapologetic. I had a friend who was chronically late, by an hour or more. No apology, EVER. The final straw was on a day I was babysitting (for free)her son for her. I'd explained that I needed her to drop him off by 9am because I was taking him with us to my son's therapy appointment, and needed to leave by 9:15am. At 9:45 she still hadn't shown or called. I left. She called my cell phone at 10am and chewed me out for not being home and how was she going to go to work? Seriously.

Thailand Gal said...

I agree with you about the spam. There should be some illegality to that, imo. It is everywhere. Just within the past week, I've gotten telemarketers calling me on my cell phone. They just don't care how much they annoy people. Must take a special breed.

As for on time, although it is not my nature, I am always on time for meetings and appointments for the very reason you state. I have no right to be late when it involves other people's time. Simplistic view perhaps ~ but there it is.


Peace,

Thailand Gal
~*~*~

Lucia said...

Lateness. Ugh! I always think of this as rude, and that the late person believes their time is more important than mine. My husband is perpetually late. I asked his sister if he always did this, and he always has. He just doesn't seem to be able to figure out how much time things will take, even though he's done the same thing over and over again. What's interesting to me is that he doesn't really have a sense of feeling like his time is more important.

Jennifer said...

So, I will apologize now for any future opportunities we may have to meet in person.

Because the one thing you can count on?

I will be tardy.

I claim it to be part of my "charm". Nobody buys it, but I still claim it.

:-x

Holly Capote said...

I hate tardiness too. It's a way to say, "I'm more important than you," but without words. My partner often makes us tardy and I hate arriving late and having people that I don't care enough to be punctual.

Regarding spammers, even if they were selling something I wanted, I wouldn't buy because of their delivery.

Sanjay said...

I have to agree with you about time. *A* is like that too, she is a stickler for it. So ya know if I have to see her some place at a given time, I better not be late or else.. ;-)

I had comment spam a few times but it stopped after a bit, but I can see why you hate it.

meno said...

ddm, SHE got mad at YOU? That's rich. I suppose her work is that much more important than your son's Dr. appt. I don't think so.

thailang gal, your view is not simplistic, it's a basic decency.(BTW, great answer to your rude commenter.)

lucia, it is rude. The Mister is often late, but i have at least taught him to acknowledge it and apologize.

jennifer, so you're one of THEM huh? :)

hi holly, i actually get anxious if i am late. Even if it's only a little. Death to Spammers!

sanjay, sounds like *A* has her priorities straight!

amusing said...

Mr. X used to always be late and I considered it a power play on his part. It was right after the divorce and he was consistently 15 to 30 minutes late. I would have a bit of a rant about how disrespectful it was but then (love my therapist) I realized he didn't care, that my caring was empowering him and so I let it go.

Ginnie said...

I agree about the spam asking if you want to make extra money. Only a dumbo would actually go there.

Mignon said...

Yeah, I said something on SueBob's site the other day how late people think early people are anal and controlling and early people think late people are boorish and inconsiderate. I'm much happier being considered anal. Inconsiderate is a terrible character trait.

The Kitschen Table said...

I was chronically late for years...mostly because I had a hard time getting out of the house. There was always something to check...the iron, the curlers. Turned out I had OCD. Since my OCD is under control, so is my time management. I think that this probably effects a lot of people.
julie

jen said...

i too, cannot stand tardiness. i am always prompt - it is something i can't do - hold others up.

i love it when you rant.

Caro said...

Chronic tardiness makes me break out in hives. I am really trying to teach my daughters to be punctual. Of the 3, only the middle one seems to have grasped the importance of being on time at all times. The other two take after their father's side of the family, where tardiness is commonplace. My mother-in-law has never been punctual.If we need her to show up for 6:oo, we tell her to arrive at 5:oo. It's that bad.

Julie said...

I was just debating if I should turn off the word verification thing because it's a real pain (and I feel like such a dork when I get them wrong -- as if it were an IQ test or something). I guess I'll just leave it on and avoid the spam. Cause who wants that?

Maya's Granny said...

Once upon a time I had a business partner who was habitually late. Finally, I stopped talking about it, and started just doing things without her. Leaving for appointments, etc. Amazing how she was able to get herself together after that.

My sister was another. Holiday meals, she would arrive a good two hours after the meal was supposed to be served, and our parents would carp and complain, but still hold the meal for her. Until I told my mother that since dinner was set for 2, if our butts weren't in chairs by 2:15, I was taking my kids to Black Angus. Mom called Colleen and told her that Daddy was tired of "adult kids" being late and so was locking the door at 2 and if we weren't there, he said we could stand on the porch and watch everyone else eat. That's my mom -- throw Daddy to the wolves. That's my dad -- such a control freak that anyone would believe it was him and never dare ask.

Anyway, we never had that problem again.

Mombat said...

I'm with you on those two rants, boy. Of course, I'm so new that the commenters, let alone spammers, aren't flocking to my site.

As for the tardy poopers (just made that up and I like it!), my mom was/is one. We also stopped accommodating her and would just start eating or even leave our house if she doesn't arrive on time. She has improved only slightly, but we are much happier about not having the angst of waiting.

Disgruntled Owl said...

I found your blog through the NaBloPoMo randomizer as I was sitting on my couch waiting for my friend to show up and go to the movies...guess who was 25 minutes late? I'm going to have to do the "change the time" trick on her by telling her we need to meet at 4pm when it's really 5pm so if she shows up at 4:30 then we're still okay. I wonder how many times that trick actually works before they catch on?

Also, I'm digging on your photos that you've posted - very nice, very nice.

meno said...

amusing, smart therapist. Too bad you can't just charge him for being late.

ginnie, welcome! It must work occasionally or they would stop.

mignon, i remember that comment. You are so correct. The joke in our family is that i am "detail-oriented" not anal-retentive.

k. table, welcome. that's an interesting story. Maybe i should ask my squash partner to get checked for OCD. She'd love that. I'm glad you got it figured out.

jen, i knew i liked you for a reason. :)

caro, no hives for me, only mental hives. Your daughters may all catch on one day. You should try leaving without the MIL.

julie, it's bad enough to get the stuff in my e-mail, but comment spammers deserve a special place in hell. I'm cringing for the day when they figure out how to get past the word verification. It's like an arms race.

maya's granny, You stopped being an enabler. Good for you. I love how your mom blamed it on your dad. That's classic.

mombat, they will be. Jerks! (the spammers, not the commenters.) I like your new term, very clever.

d owl, welcome. How ironic is that? And thanks for the nice words on the photos.

holly said...

*hangs head in shame* I used to have this problem. people used to say I ran on my own timeschedule, "holly time". I used to call my coworker to let her know I was on my way, and she'd sign me in, so I wouldn't officially be 10 minutes late every day. somewhere in the last 10 years, I have changed, to the extent of going the opposite direction. now, I'm almost always atleast 10 minutes early to appointments and meetings. I don't know what happened, or how, but I know I'm alot less stressed these days.

Mother of Invention said...

ppToo bad about the word verif. but we all have it anyway so don't feel bad.
I'm an anal early bird too!

Gretchen said...

See now, I like the word verification... I try to make a sentence creating a word with every letter - like "etzxf"
Extra Terresterials Zealously Xray Felons. It doesn't make any sense, but I think it's pretty funny.

Chronic lateness? I'd find a new partner...

SparklieSunShine said...

I wish WordPress had the verification thing. As much as it annoys me it would be so nice to have 0 spam comments. Some days I have up to 30 and I wish I knew why. I have blacklisted so many words and they just seem to come up with new things. Lately I have been getting up to 40 links from the same spammer all involving the word dog and sex in various ways. Uuuk! Give me a break!

Also constant lateness I think shows immense disrespect for the other person. Have you thought about telling them your going to leave/do something about 30 minutes before you actually need to?

My sister's boyfriend is always late so sometimes we tell him to be places up to 2 hours in advance.

meno said...

holly, nice that you recovered and now exist in the same time zone as most of the rest of us. Good for you!

MOI, remember, you are "detail-oriented" not "anal". :)

gretchen, i'll have to learn to play that game. And i have one new partner, so we'll see how long this old one lasts now. I have vowed to leave after 10 minutes from now on.

ss, what a drag aboout the spam! Jerks! I have told her that squash starts 10 minutes before thw hour, but she doesn't believe me.