When the going gets tough, the tough do research.
I am going through actual physical withdrawal, according to things i've read. There are hormones that we produce when we are in a relationship that are as powerful as heroin. And when that relationship is suddenly over, we go through withdrawal.
The symptoms can include:
- pounding heart - yep
- flushed face - yep
- panic attacks - yep
- feelings of doom - yep
- sweaty palms - yep
- frequent peeing - yep
- dry mouth - yep
and various other unpleasant things, not all of which apply (thank you for THAT).
For some reason it helps me to know this. I am in withdrawal from the soon-ex. There is an actual physical reason for these symptoms that i cannot get to go away by sheer force of will. There is nothing wrong with my willpower. I am not idealizing him, far from it. I just have to get through this, cold turkey, so to speak.
I went downtown last night to see a "conversation" with Joyce Carol Oates with 2,500 of my closest friends. She lost her husband to death a few years ago, and, as she is a prolific writer, she wrote a book about it. As she was talking about her experiences, they touched very closely upon mine. It was both timely and disturbing. But ultimately helpful.