In answer to Esereth's questions:
Some good things my mother taught me:
- Respect your surroundings (don't litter or spray paint your name on rocks or trees). We had no money growing up as my dad was in the military, so we always went camping for vacations. I loved it.
- Good table manners that i can call upon when needed. The mister once told me that when we first met, he thought i was elegant because of my nice table manners.
- How to sew. Although i don't like sewing, i do own and know how to operate a sewing machine.
- You can use the power you have over another human to humiliate them. As kids we were encouraged to tease each other mercilessly when we discovered a tender spot. I still feel badly about some of the things we said and did to one another. Tim, i'm sorry.
- The best defense is a loud, noisy, scary offense. I try hard not to do this, but it's still my first reaction to criticism.
- Children are an unpleasant experience. For years i was fairly certain that i would never have children because everyone knows they are noisy, selfish and will bother you endlessly. All of which is true, but then there are the other things, which i never knew.
- It's okay to tell someone you love them. Although he didn't start doing this until i was well over 20, but better late than never.
- It's okay to sit quietly and not talk. Communication is still occuring.
- How to sail a boat.
- Sarcasm. Whew, he used to be the king of that, but for the last 25 years, he rarely does it. But i still learned well from those first 25 years.
- Passivity in the face of abuse. My mom treats this man like crap sometimes and i just wish that he would tell her to fuck off, just once.
It's so much easier to come up with the bad than the good.