Altitude and Attitude

Lucia left this comment on my post for yesterday:
From 20/20: "Professor Allen Mazur...did a study that found taller men are likely to marry more often and have more children. Mazur said one possible reason for his finding is that "taller men, by virtue of being more attractive to women, perhaps have more opportunities with women other than their wives, which leads to a breakup of marriage, which leads to a remarriage to a younger woman, which leads to another child."

Would it be fair to say from the study that it seems that taller men were hot and the shorter men were not? "That would be an inference. You could also infer that the shorter men are better husbands, and they have more long-lasting marriages," Mazur said."

So, after all these years, I'd be interested in how you see the taller/shorter thing now.

This gives me a chance to be all thoughtful and shit about the height difference between the Mister and me. Or at least tell a few funny stories from over the years.

One time, before we were married, we were walking one evening along the sidewalk by Sand Point, an ex military base in Seattle. I had short hair at the time and was wearing overalls. The Mister had long curly hair (for those of you around my age, his hair looked just like Peter Frampton's). We had our arms around each other while we were walking.
Some guys drove by, saw us and yelled "FAGGOTS!" out their car window. We both laughed and were teasing each other about who they had thought was which sex, although we both knew that they had thought we were both men.
Not five minutes later a man passed us on the sidewalk and said, "Good evening ladies". We both lost it then. That poor man must have wondered what the hell he'd said that was so funny.

But seriously, the Mister is a handsome guy. I think if he had been both handsome and tall, he might have been an asshole.

It's hard for me to say about the good husband thing, as we have had some major problems in our marriage. It's always easy to blame it on him, but he does have some self esteem issues that cause him to want to be attractive to everyone. (Thanks father and mother-in-law, you suck.) Although, to his credit, he has really worked hard on trying to figure out his issues and deal with them. He has been going to therapy for at least 10 years. That's one of the reasons that i am still with him, is that he was very sorry for his fucking up with what's her name and was truly serious about working it out. Can't save a marriage by yourself.

Yeah, i wish he were taller. He wishes he were taller. I wish i was shorter too, but not the whole 4 inches, i would like to be 5'10". But it will never happen. Well, i might become shorter one day, but he most assuredly will not grow. I don't think about it all that much anymore, except when we are out in public. We still hold hands all the time. People look at us, probably because we are so remarkably attractive (ahem), but rarely does anybody say anything to us.

Oh yeah, another story. The Mister was at a car dealer one day when i came to meet him for a minute to sign something (the Mister has a car problem, he keeps buying them). The sales manager saw me and after i left said, "My wife is taller than i am too. It's cool because it makes people think you have a big one."

I've made a bit of a mess of answering Lucia, but really, it's just how my life worked out.