These are my two boys, who are brothers, taking a little snooze:
One is an extroverted salesman type who is very sure about his opinions. The other is an introverted geek, who has excellent analytical skills.
One was athletic as a child, playing baseball and tennis and basketball, but had trouble learning to read. The other was only mildly good at swimming, but was in the Math Club and the Chess Club and played clarinet in the school's marching band.
I believe that one of them would have been diagnosed as ADHD if he were a child now, while the other might have been seen as depressed.
While they are polite to one another at the few family gatherings that we have, they are essentially estranged.
It's sad because they are both good people.
They are 3 years apart in age. One of the things that i see now, that i didn't see then, was that my parents encouraged them to compete with one another, although their talents obviously lay in completely different areas. My oldest brother talks about this now and helps me to understand what it must have been like for them.
I just want to knock my middle brother on the head sometimes. It seems that he is holding on to his past resentments. He of course would argue with that statement, but that's what i see. Sibling relationships can be very complex, so i just watch from the outside and wish that it were different.